One of the most significant factors of a heartfelt, empathetic condolence note is sensitivity. Whether religious or cultural sensitivity, both are crucial.
Jump ahead to these sections:
- How to Pick the Right Christian Condolence Message
- Christian Condolence Ideas Inspired by the Bible
- Christian Condolence Quotes from the Bible
- Christian Condolences for Someone Who Lost a Family Member or Friend
- The Most Important Part of a Condolence Card
When it comes to creating Christian condolence notes, there's lots of great inspiration. This inspiration comes from the Bible and heartfelt prayers about primary faith tenets.
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There’s no single best method to offer a great condolence message for someone. For starters, it’s a personalized thing to do. You need to take a few primary factors into account when doing it.
For starters, take etiquette and the level of your relationship into account. Even if you know someone well enough to know what faith they ascribe to, how well do you know them? If they’re a client, a brief professional message may be best. If they’re a coworker you know well, a more sympathetic note would be appropriate.
Also, consider the medium that you’re using. For someone from an older generation, texting them condolences might be inappropriate. If you don’t know someone’s address, though, then maybe an email would be the best option. If you feel like a small condolence note might not be enough, try sending an inexpensive sympathy gift box, a tin of fresh-baked, gourmet cookies, or a vase of fresh-cut flowers along with your note.
Consider someone’s level of religious observance, too. What if they are Christian, but aren't very devout? A condolence message studded with Bible verses might not work. Taking everything into account is a great way to make sure your card is well received. It also ensures you'll provide some measure of support during a difficult time.
The Bible is a book with a significant amount of variety. From proverbs providing wisdom to stories illustrating lessons, it covers many genres. Yet, Christian condolences from the Bible often sound as if they are from the book of Psalms.
- Please accept our heartfelt condolences for your loss. Our prayers are with you and your family. I hope God blesses and comforts you during this difficult time, and takes the deceased’s soul to Heaven.
- I’m so heartbroken to hear about your loss. Know that your daughter’s soul is up in Heaven, and you’ll be reunited with her again in the future. I pray God gives you comfort and strength during this difficult time.
- My heart goes out to you during this painful time. I’m praying for you, and the soul of your loved one.
- Praying that God’s love enfolds you and comforts you through the pain. I hope He helps you heal from this awful loss.
- I’d like to offer my heartfelt sympathies. I was so saddened to hear about the death of your loved one. May their soul rest in peace.
- May God bless their soul as they ascend to heaven with him. And may God’s love comfort and bless you right now.
- Praying for you and your family during this difficult time. I hope you feel the power of God’s love and His presence in your lives.
- May God give her soul eternal peace and a safe resting place with him. Our prayers for God’s comfort are with you and your family right now.
- Your brother was a kind, Godly man. I’m sure his soul is in heaven right now, with eternal rest and forgiveness. I’m so sorry for the loss and pain you’re going through here on Earth.
- I’m so sorry to hear about your loss, and I am eager to reunite with your mother in heaven someday.
Biblical quotes are an excellent centerpiece for any Christian condolence card. As the holiest book in Christianity, it provides genuine comfort and peace.
- Psalms 119:50 - My comfort in my suffering is this: your promise preserves my life.
- Matthew 5:4 - Blessed are those who mourn, for they will be comforted.
- John 14:27 - Peace I leave with you; my peace I give to you. Not as the world gives do I give to you. Let not your hearts be troubled, neither let them be afraid.
- Psalms 23:4 - Even though I walk through the darkest valley, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me.
- Psalms 46:1 - God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.
- John 16:22 - So also you have sorrow now, but I will see you again, and your hearts will rejoice, and no one will take your joy from you.
- Isaiah 49:13 - For the Lord comforts his people and will have compassion on his afflicted ones.
- Psalms 73:26 - My flesh and my heart may fail, but God is the strength of my heart and my portion forever.
- Psalms 57:1-2 - Have mercy on me, my God, have mercy on me, for in you I take refuge. I will take refuge in the shadow of your wings until the disaster has passed. I cry out to God Most High, to God, who vindicates me.
- Psalms 72:12 - For he will deliver the needy who cry out, the afflicted who have no one to help.
No condolence message in the world can help soothe the pain of losing a family member or a friend. Yet, customizing a message for their loss does make a difference.
You can support them through grief and help with their feelings of loss. If you’re at a loss for what to say, brainstorm a personalized message to send along with a sympathy gift based off these ideas:
- May the soul of your friend or family member rest in peace. I was so shocked to hear about their death. I'd like to give my heartfelt condolences during this challenging time.
- My prayer for you is that God’s peace and love comforts you through the pain you’re feeling right now. I also pray he helps you recover and heal, in time, from this heartbreaking loss.
- My heart is going out to you during this soul-crushing time. There’s no pain like losing a friend of a family member. Praying for you and the soul of your loved one.
- I’m so shocked and saddened to hear about the death of your friend or family member. Rest in the fact that your family member’s soul is up in Heaven, and you’ll see them again someday. I pray that God sends his angels to give you love and comfort during this time.
- Please accept my heartfelt sympathy for the death of your family member. My prayers are with you, and your family.
- Please accept my condolences during this heartbreaking time. I hope God blesses and comforts you, and takes the deceased’s soul to rest with Him in Heaven where they belong.
- I’m so saddened for your loss, but so glad that you have such great memories of their life to comfort you. I look forward to seeing them on the other side of Heaven someday.
- All my thoughts and prayers are for you to experience Heavenly strength and peace during this painful time. Give me a call if you’d like to talk or pray with someone.
- Praying for you during this time. May your family member’s soul rest in peace. Please let me know if there’s anything I can do to help. I’d love to coordinate something with our church to bring over food. I could also watch your children or help with the funeral arrangements.
- Keeping you in my heart and prayers. May their soul ascend to Heaven with the angels, and may God welcome them. So sorry for your loss and pain that you’re dealing with right now.
Writing a condolence card is never easy. Yet, some things will make it a more positive experience for you. Don’t say something that you’re not prepared to follow up on. This will make you look flaky and uncaring. It will also cause more grief and stress to the bereaved. If you offer to pick up their children after school and forget about that offer, it's wrong. It also something else they have to deal with and pick up after.
Always follow up on vague promises, too. If, in your condolence card, you stated that someone was in your thoughts and prayers, then pray for them. If you tell them that you'll see them at the funeral at the church, go and reaffirm your condolences in person. If you’re also a Christian, then you likely believe it makes a difference and should follow through on your word.
The last and most crucial part of writing a Christian condolence card is faith. This is very different from sugar-coating. For some, faith is a beautiful and powerful thing and something that has soothed many people’s hearts.