That we acknowledge and celebrate our loved ones through an obituary or a death notice is rooted in American culture.
It’s common to put one either in a paper or elsewhere in the United States, perhaps because our funeral rites last for days, including memorials, vigils, and the funeral itself. Whereas in some cultures, the overall view of death takes little ritual unless that person was famous.
Jump ahead to these sections:
- Overview: Death Notice vs. Obituary
- What’s a Death Notice?
- What’s an Obituary?
- Main Differences Between Obituaries and Death Notices
- Similarities Between Death Notices and Obituaries
- When to Use an Obituary or Death Notice
Both a death notice and an obituary can be written in a meaningful way to pay respect and give honor to the passing of a loved one. Below, you’ll find some information on the differences between the two, their purposes, and their uses.
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Overview: Death Notice vs. Obituary
Both death notices and obituaries are printed in newspapers and relay a death notification for someone’s friend or loved one. Though they express the same happening, there are a few key differences between them to consider.
First, the death notice is just that—a notice. It’s a short announcement of someone’s death and typically includes the person’s name, date of passing, location of passing, and the funeral home handling their arrangements. However, the notice offers enough detail to let others know the tragic event occurred. Typically this is prepared by the funeral home.
Conversely, the obituary is much longer and is typically prepared by a family member or a paid professional. Obituaries generally offer more specific information about the individual, including detailed information about the service, surviving family members (including important genealogical references), and other personal but relevant details like hobbies, religions, or further biographical details.
What’s a Death Notice?
In brief, a death notice announces the death of someone. If the family requests publication in a local newspaper, a funeral home will help the family fill out a basic template. But unlike an obituary, the information provided is basic or essential.
Not long ago, people also used to list a decedent’s home address in the death notice so others would know where to visit or send memorial gifts. Now, it’s best to leave out that information to secure against identity theft or other malintent.
What’s an Obituary?
An obituary, on the other hand, is an account of one’s life in detail. While funeral homes and newspapers can help the family write one, it’s now a common practice that a family member tells the story of their loved one’s life.
Initially, obituaries looked and sounded much like a death notice. Now, they are rosy tributes to a loved one where people can learn all sorts of details, insights, and even the deceased’s philosophies.
Main Differences Between Obituaries and Death Notices
The content provided in a death notice is far less than what you’ll read in an obituary. Here, you’ll discover what those differences are and how they came to be.
Death notices provide much less information than an obituary. Commonly, one is published in a newspaper only days before the funeral and include the following:
- Name (and nickname) of the person who has died, including a maiden name
- The date and location of death may be referenced, but the cause of death is optional
- Information about the funeral or service date and location
- Options for gifts or donations in lieu of flowers
An obituary might be printed days before or after a funeral and will include the following additional biographical information:
- Date and place of birth
- Sports and hobbies throughout school and life
- Spouse and date of marriage
- Education, work history, and any military service
It’s not commonplace for a death notice to have a photo, but obituary photos are generally included. While there’s no correct or incorrect photo to use, here are some recommendations to follow:
- Choose a flattering photo
- Make sure the image is in focus
- Avoid group photos
- Current and past photos are both good choices.
Basic family information
Unlike a death notice, genealogical information fills a portion of the obituary.
You’ll commonly find a list of surviving family members, like spouses, children, and siblings. A set of parentheses next to each family member’s name will include their spouses and children, too.
Death notices are often free, simple “notices” for a newspaper article, so things like community impact and affiliated memberships are left out.
However, obituaries can include unique and interesting details, like:
- Devotion to one’s religious organization
- Membership in a VFW, birding club, knitting group, or writer’s guild
- Volunteerism and selflessness
- Neighborliness or being a good samaritan
- Gift-giving to the underrepresented or needy at holidays and more
Personal achievements don’t have to be world-renown to be amazing. Having the winning pickle recipe at the county fair for ten years in a row is a huge accomplishment and deserves its place, too.
I’ve listed a few made-up creative achievements, so you get the idea:
- Artie was a flyweight boxing champion of the Cannonball District from 1966-68.
- Sal invented a roofing device to make reshingling easier.
- Rhea climbed the highest mountain on every continent before she turned 35.
- Elvira was voted “Best Apple Pie” in the neighborhood every year without fail.
- Gene was a closet songwriter for famous country artists, working mostly with new age artists.
- Simon authored three books about dog training that are very popular in the AKC community.
Many well-loved family members will have a few lines written about the impact they made on others.
For instance, perhaps the decedent became a beloved big brother to their spouse’s siblings. Or maybe they influenced their kids to become military servicemen or conservationists.
Often, indications of someone’s character come out without even trying. The deceased’s charm will shine in the obituary’s details, from the chosen photo to their career choice, and the beloved family and friends who grieve their loss.
If you decide to be more specific, check out these creative examples:
- Audrey changed her oil and fixed her own cars throughout her life.
- Joan made quilts for the homeless throughout the year and gifted them during the holidays.
- Chip picked up microplastic at the beach every weekend to bring awareness to his community.
- Dad wrote his own jokes—and laughed at all of them.
Philosophies, poetry, and musings
You’ll have an option in an obituary to recognize someone for being artistic, eccentric, and thoughtful by leaving a tidbit of wisdom.
Did your dad have a great piece of advice? Did your sister write beautiful, meaningful poetry? If you and others found these things helpful over the years, it’s possible to weave them into the story of their life.
Both a death notice and an obituary will list options to donate in someone’s name; however, there will be ample room to explain the reasoning behind that donation in an obituary.
Online memorial domains
Something you won’t find with a death notice is a memorial domain. These are online memorial webpages where survivors, including friends, can express their thoughts and memories as a legacy statement.
After a while, the sites will close down an obituary, but there is the option to pay for it to be kept online for a short time or posterity.
Conversely, an obituary is too long to be published on other online locations such as social media or organization websites, and the like. You’ll even find that even a full death notice is too long here as well. There, a simple “in memory of” or a “thank you” with a name is sufficient.
Death notices are short. They provide only the necessary information to a specific group of people, without offering much more detail than is needed.
For example, you’ll find death notices in the following locations:
- Funeral homes pages
- Company or another organizational newsletter
- Nonprofit website
- Social media pages
- Personal or family websites
Whereas obituaries are lengthy and can be expensive as you’re paying per word, and that’s not including the photograph. If your loved one moved around a lot for work or settled in a new place late in life, like retiring on an island, you’ll want to choose the location of the obituary well.
You should consider:
- Hometown newspaper
- Paper where elderly parents live
Similarities Between Death Notices and Obituaries
There are few similarities between death notices and obituaries. But, just the same, you may find subtle and differing nuances.
Printed in newspapers
Both obituaries and death announcements are printed in newspapers, a practice that began in Roman times when people of prominence died. In fact, what constitutes a death announcement today may have been the only thing people would read about those people many years ago.
Today, however, newspapers afford all people the opportunity to tell a story about a friend or loved one—no matter how long or short, and for all people to read.
Found on other social media or publications
Just as the nature of obituaries and who they are written about have changed with time, so too have avenues for their publication. Now, people can post short death announcements or long life stories online. Such venues include funeral home websites, various social media platforms, blogs, and more.
In some cases, you may even find that private companies will publish such announcements about their employees in company newsletters or emails.
Both include the person’s name
The most obvious common denominator of a death announcement or obituary is the person’s name. While the death announcement may not offer a person’s nickname, maiden name, or any other moniker, you’re more likely to find those detailed in their obituary.
Nonetheless, the person’s name is the first and primary similarity.
Include the date of death
As soon as the surviving family is contacted to handle arrangements, the funeral home can submit a death notice to the local newspaper or post it on their website. From there, people can share the notice on their personal social media pages.
The timing of the obituary is a little less concrete. However, it will commonly give the person’s date of birth and death for better clarification on the individual’s age.
May include the place of death
Where a person dies may or may not be used in either the death announcement or the obituary. This is one of those details that, in many cases, may seem less important than the death itself.
That is unless the person tragically died while on some grand adventure or anything else that might indicate your loved one’s free-spiritedness.
May include the funeral home
The funeral home handling the arrangements will commonly be mentioned in a death announcement and an obituary. That way, people will know where to attend the service and when.
Exceptions to this would be if the obituary were written much later than the funeral or memorial ceremony. In that case, the person’s biographical details and life story take precedence.
Both can be used as proof of passing
In some cases, agencies will take death notices and obituaries as proof of passing. That means instead of requiring the survivors to provide a copy of a death certificate, you can show them the online references instead.
Note: This may not be the case for all agencies you’re working with, so be prepared to offer the documentation needed to complete business with them.
When to Use an Obituary or Death Notice
There are some subtle differences between an obituary and a death notice that will determine which one is appropriate in certain print publications and when. See below.
Use a death notice when
Suppose the cause of death is unusual, embarrassing for the family, or anything else that would cause you to pause before exposing private information. In that case, a death notice works because it's vague—without sounding alarm bells from the gossipers.
That means you don’t have to be wordy or express and reveal things about your loved one in a way that you find unnecessary. The notice itself is the polite way of letting people know about your loved one while maintaining a distance from exposing too much information.
Reasons for this can include:
- The decedent’s wishes
- The family’s wishes to avoid more intimate or vulnerable details such as suicide or addiction issues
- The death is considered taboo or uncomfortable, but the notice is out of respect
- Religious or spiritual reasons against a full obituary
- An unusual discovery or circumstance
- If an accident caused a delay in the discovery
- You don’t want to spend the money on an obituary
Use an obituary when
Most well-written obituaries are penned by family members to expose the life and beauty of someone they respected and loved. However, there are occasions when the obituary becomes a memoir of “how not to behave” in life. Most of us have read one or two of these as they seem to spread across the Internet like wildfire.
That said, you'll want to use an obituary in the following circumstances:
- To announce an open invitation for a funeral or memorial event; involve a community
- When they were loved and respected whether by few or many
- If their life was a lesson from which to learn whether good or bad
- To express pride and admiration
- As an homage and final rendering of a life well-lived
As a final note, one result of an obituary is that you'll inadvertently give funeral attendees some memorial gift ideas. If your loved one was outdoorsy, you might encourage people to donate to tree planting organizations of their own volition.
Whether a Death Notice or An Obituary, It’s Up to You
Whether you choose a simple death notice or a detailed, meaningful obituary, there's no right or wrong to how you want to honor your loved one.
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