Grammy or Granny, Oma, or Abuela. No matter what you called her, your grandmother helped make you who you are today. And the loss of a beloved grandmother is often one of the first we experience.
Jump ahead to these sections:
- 1. Take Some Time to Reflect
- 2. Write Down Your Unedited Thoughts and Feelings
- 3. Find Out How Much Time You Have
- 4. Brainstorm Ideas for the Speech
- 5. Create an Outline for Your Eulogy
- 6. Turn to Family and Friends
- 7. Sit Down and Write
- 8. Take Some Time Away
- 9. Consider the Tone of Your Eulogy
- 10. Revise and Rewrite
- 11. Memorize and Practice
- Short Example Eulogies for a Grandmother
When you’re writing a eulogy for a grandmother, you may not know where or how to begin. If you shared a close bond with your grandmother, it could be even more difficult to express all of those feelings in one short speech.
Below, we’ll outline some helpful tips for writing a eulogy for a grandmother. We’ll also provide some examples of eulogies for grandmothers to spark your inspiration.
If writing a eulogy is just one of your tasks after losing a grandmother, our post-loss checklist can help you and your family sort through it all.
1. Take Some Time to Reflect
After any loss, it’s important to take time to reflect and grieve. You may only have a short time to compose a eulogy before the funeral, but you might be able to take a few hours away for yourself.
Treat yourself to a relaxing bubble bath or some quiet reflection. Think about the time you spent with your grandmother while she was here, and allow yourself to grieve.
2. Write Down Your Unedited Thoughts and Feelings
Once the thoughts and emotions are freely flowing, grab paper and pen and begin to write. Don’t try to edit your writing at this point—write down whatever comes to you.
Think about the answers to some of these questions, if you need some inspiration:
- What’s your fondest memory of your grandmother?
- What do you admire most about the life your grandmother lived?
- What’s the first memory you have with your grandma?
- Did you see your grandmother as a role model? If so, how?
- What was the thing you and your grandmother loved doing together?
- What’s a joke you shared that no one else understood?
- What smells, sounds, or sights will always remind you of your grandmother?
- What’s your favorite thing about your grandmother?
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3. Find Out How Much Time You Have
Composing a eulogy for a grandmother also involves some logistic considerations, like time limits. Your family is probably hosting the funeral, so you’ll have leeway when it comes to time.
If another person is hosting the memorial, or if you’ll have a priest or funeral director leading the service, make sure to find out how much time you have to give a eulogy.
You might also find out if other people will be giving eulogies at the funeral. If not, your speech will carry more weight. If several other people are preparing eulogies, you might speak with them and find out what they plan to say.
4. Brainstorm Ideas for the Speech
You already put your initial thoughts and feelings to paper in Step 2. Now, it’s time to create a more deliberate brainstorm, incorporating those ideas.
Look at all of the anecdotes, personality traits, and memories you jotted down. Think of how you would phrase those ideas if you were sharing them with friends or family. The tone of your eulogy should be respectful but conversational, and ultimately positive in nature.
If one story stands out to you as especially important, you can center your eulogy around it. If there’s a common theme amongst all of your ideas (i.e., your grandma’s loving attitude, sense of humor, etc.), you can use that theme to flesh out your speech.
5. Create an Outline for Your Eulogy
An organized and logical outline will make the writing process faster and smoother. It will help you create a eulogy for your grandmother than makes sense and pays tribute at the same time.
For your outline, you’ll want to include the following:
Introduce yourself, if it’s a large audience with some attendants who might not know you. Let the attendees know that you’re the grandson or granddaughter of the deceased.
This part should take about 30 seconds or less. If you need more help, read our guide on how to start a eulogy.
Next is the body of your speech. This is where you’ll talk about your grandmother in more detail and share one or two memories. Organize the thoughts you put down in your brainstorm, either according to a theme or chronologically.
Create 5 to 10 subpoints in this section—one for each talking point or brainstorm idea you want to touch upon.
You’ll finish your eulogy by providing a final, short memory of your grandmother, or an all-encompassing depiction of her and her life.
You can close with what you’ll miss most about your grandmother and the things about her that you’ll most remember. You can also read our guide on how to end a eulogy for more tips.
6. Turn to Family and Friends
You might need more ideas for your eulogy, or you might want feedback on what you have so far. Either way, input from family and friends can be highly valuable when composing a funeral speech. Especially when you’re writing a eulogy for a grandmother, hearing your family’s memories and feelings can help you put yours into words.
Gather your family together to talk and reminisce about your grandmother. Ask them if they’ll be giving eulogies, and if not, if they’d like you to include anything on their behalf.
7. Sit Down and Write
Finally, it’s time to write your eulogy. You might be struggling with sadness and grief, but the sooner you put pen to paper and compose your eulogy, the better.
Take the outline you created and your brainstorm, and flesh out the introduction, body, and conclusion. For the introduction, you can lead to your speech by giving the overarching theme of the stories you’ll tell. Or, you can simply introduce yourself and start talking about your grandmother and the life she led.
In the body of your eulogy, you should include transitions from one story or explanation to another. Organize your thoughts along a logical timeline, and don’t try to fit in too much.
Conclude your eulogy by showing appreciation to the funeral attendees. Share any last words you have for the audience or words that you’d like to share with your grandmother directly.
8. Take Some Time Away
After you’ve written your speech, it’s a good idea to set it aside for a short time. Leave the eulogy alone for a day, if you can, and come back to it with fresh eyes. This will allow you to experience your eulogy from the perspective of a listener.
It may also help to have someone read your speech back to you or use the “Read Aloud” function on Microsoft Word to listen to your words.
9. Consider the Tone of Your Eulogy
When you re-read or listen to your speech, consider its tone. The tone of a eulogy should be respectful but generally casual. You can share feelings of grief—for example, “I was heartbroken when I found out my dear grandmother had passed.” However, the overall message of a eulogy should be uplifting and positive.
Focus on how your grandmother impacted the world in a positive way while she was alive and how her legacy will live on.
10. Revise and Rewrite
You might have to edit and rewrite your eulogy multiple times before it’s just right. It’s okay to create a rough draft, and then decide to start all over again. Getting the right tone and conveying your genuine feelings isn’t easy to do on the first try.
11. Memorize and Practice
Finally, decide how you’ll memorize your eulogy speech. Will you memorize the speech you wrote, word-for-word? That can take a great deal of time, and it often leads to an unnatural presentation. Alternatively, you can jot down the key points of your speech, and bring a notecard with you.
You may also choose to read your eulogy, rather than memorizing it. If you read your speech, though, try to memorize it to some extent so that you can look up from the page periodically.
Practice giving your eulogy multiple times until you feel comfortable. Public speaking is nerve-wracking for nearly everyone, and it’s okay to feel nervous. What’s important is that you pay your grandmother tribute with a heartfelt speech.
Short Example Eulogies for a Grandmother
Reading examples of eulogies can help you prepare your own. Below are some excerpts from eulogies for grandmothers to lend you inspiration.
From a granddaughter
- We were so lucky to have had Grandma for the 89 years she was on this earth. Her life was full of beauty and love.
- My grandmother was decisive and determined. She was our matriarch, and as her granddaughter, I will try to honor that legacy the best I can.
- Since I found out about Granny’s passing, I’ve been thinking deeply about the bond between a grandmother and granddaughter. It’s a bond that defined my life, whether I was aware of it or not.
From a grandson
- Grandma may not have approved of everything we did, but the love she felt for us was unconditional. She she never judged but tried to gently guide us in the right direction.
- Grandmother’s favorite pastime was games: board games, cardgames, hide-and-seek when we were little, and games of all kinds. From a young age, we became enchanted by her world of games, and that joy will last for generations.
Writing a Eulogy for a Grandmother
Writing a eulogy for a grandmother can be an emotionally taxing experience. But it’s one that can help you through the initial grieving process. A heartfelt eulogy will also help those who hear your speech to look back on your grandmother’s life with fondness.
The tips and examples above will help you feel confident with your eulogy speech. But above all, write your eulogy for a grandmother from the heart, using good memories and emotions.