50 Heartfelt ‘Happy Birthday, Brother’ Messages for Texts, DMs & Cards

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Brothers can be our best friends or the banes of our existence. Often they can occupy both roles at the same time! Regardless, brothers are important figures in our lives. So when your brother’s birthday rolls around, you obviously want to communicate just what he means to you. 

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There are many ways you can reach out to send a happy birthday message to a loved one. You can send a traditional birthday card, or you can send messages via text or social media. Depending on your medium, you may communicate that message a little differently. Here, we share some happy birthday messages you can send for a variety of situations.  

How to Say ‘Happy Birthday’ to Your Little Brother

Little brothers are often portrayed as pests in pop culture. But people who have little brothers often feel fond and protective of them. These happy birthday messages to a little brother avoid those stereotypes and focus on the bond you share. 

1. “It’s hard to believe you’re my little brother because of how tall you’ve gotten! Happy birthday to the biggest little brother I know.”

If your younger brother has gone through a growth spurt lately, you can play on the concept of being a not-so-little brother. This can be a good sentiment for a young teenager who’s starting to grow up. 

2. “I’m not going to lie, I really liked being an only child. But getting you as a brother was the best present I could have ever gotten.”

Not every older sibling welcomes the arrival of a little brother. If you’ve come to appreciate yours, it’s nice to spell that out for him. 

3. “Happy birthday, little brother! I may only be 2 minutes older, but I’m much wiser.”

Twins who were born first often like to tease the second-born twins for being younger. A birthday card is a great place to keep that ongoing joke running.  

4. “Not everyone gets along with their little brothers. I’m lucky to have the coolest younger brother in the world. Happy birthday!”

A birthday message provides the perfect occasion for you to wear your heart on your sleeve. No one can tease you for being too sappy when you send an earnest birthday message, after all.  

5. “I always wanted a little brother. When our parents got married, I finally got one! Thanks for making my wish come true.”

Blending families can be challenging, but also so beautiful. If you’re happy to have a younger stepbrother in your life, tell him how much you value him.

How to Say ‘Happy Birthday’ to Your Big Brother

Big brothers have a reputation for being protective. At the end of the day, a lot of that comes from a good place. Here are some messages that help you show appreciation for your big brother.  

6. “Thank you for not being the kind of big brother who threatens to beat up my boyfriends. I appreciate that you let me handle things myself. Happy birthday!”

There’s a big distinction between big brothers that are protective compared to big brothers that are overbearing. If your brother gives you room to fight your own battles, let him know what it means to you. 

7. “You’re more than just my big brother. You’re my best friend. Happy birthday!”

Sometimes the simplest messages can mean the most. This message is short but super sweet. 

8. “After dad died, you really stepped up to help take care of the family. I know how much you held us together. Thank you for going above and beyond for us.”

Sometimes older siblings take on additional roles to help support the family. If your big brother was one of them, acknowledge that. It’s never too late to show some appreciation. 

9. “Whenever mom and dad didn’t seem to understand me, you always had my back. Thanks for helping me feel so supported.”

Sometimes older siblings can relate to us better than our parents can. If your big brother ran interference for you back in the day, let him know you’re grateful. 

10. “Most people like their own birthdays. I like your birthday best because it gives me a chance to take care of you for once.”

If your big brother has cast himself in a protective role, he might not let you take responsibility for him. Use his birthday as an opportunity to spoil him a little. 

Funny ‘Happy Birthday, Brother’ WIshes

Siblings often shy away from overt shows of emotion. We’re often more comfortable expressing ourselves through humor. Here are some funny birthday wishes to share with your brother:  

11. “Happy birthday to my favorite brother! I know you’re my only brother. But if I had others you’d probably still be my favorite.”

If you have multiple brothers, you definitely shouldn’t put it in writing that one is your favorite. But if you only have one, it’s fair game. 

12. “I couldn’t decide what to get you for your birthday. So all I got you was this card. I hope you enjoy it!”

This joke works best if you actually did get a gift to accompany your card. But it can sure make for a fun fakeout. 

13. “Happy birthday to the coolest, smartest, most interesting person in the family. Oh wait, that’s me! But you’re okay, too.”

If your brother has plenty of self-esteem, this tongue-in-cheek message might help take him down a peg. 

14. “Happy 30th birthday! (Yes, I know you’re older than that, but if I’m going to start lying about my age, you have to as well.”

Jokes at other people’s expense are risky, especially on their birthday. Poking fun at yourself is always a safer option in a humorous birthday message. 

15. “I found this large-print card so you wouldn’t get eyestrain reading it. Happy birthday, old man!” 

Old age jokes on birthday cards are kind of an old trope. You can subvert the expectations by giving a card like this to a young person. 

How to Say ‘Happy Birthday’ to a Friend Who’s Practically a Brother

There’s a saying that goes, “friends are the family you choose”. If you have a friend in your life who may as well be a brother, let him know. Letting him know just how much value him can be better than any physical or digital gift.  

16. “Growing up as an only child to a single parent was lonely. When I met you, you didn’t just become my friend. You became the brother I never had.”

If your friend has brought an element of family to your life that you were missing, tell him thank you. 

17. “Even though you’re my cousin. You have always felt like more of a brother to me. Thanks for always being there for me.”

Some people are very close to members of their extended families. A close cousin or a young uncle can take on more of a brotherly role. This birthday message captures that.

18. “Your friendship has meant so much to me over the years. I’m closer to you than I am to some of my own family members. You’re not just my bro—you’re my brother.”

When it’s someone’s birthday, we can let ourselves be a little more vulnerable than we usually would. Open up to a brotherly figure in your life. 

19. “When my own family wasn’t there for me, you took me in and shared your family with me. You’re truly my brother.”

Not everyone is blessed with a supportive family. If someone saved you from a bad family situation, use a birthday message to express your gratitude. 

20. “You’re like the brother I never had (and never really wanted). I really do love you, though.”

Sometimes friends cast themselves in the role of a protector, even if we don’t ask them to. This sly message expresses thanks while still poking fun. 

‘Happy Birthday’ Brother Post Ideas for Facebook or Instagram

A birthday card is a great way to let someone know you’re thinking of them on their birthday. But sometimes we want to let the whole world know just how special our brother is. These messages are good examples of what you could share on social media about your brother. Obviously, you should personalize them and make them more specific to you. 

21. “I know you’re having a great birthday away from the computer. But when you log back in, I wanted you to enjoy some good birthday wishes!”

Even if your brother won’t see your birthday message right away, you can still post it on his Facebook or social media page.

22. “Most of you know Ben as a great teacher and community leader. What you might not know is that he’s the best brother a person could ever ask for. Happy birthday, big brother!”

In a birthday message on social media, you can praise your brother’s accomplishments beyond your own relationship. 

23. “Mark isn’t someone who usually asks for attention. But on his birthday, I thought we should show him some love. Comment here with something you appreciate about him!”

You can emphasize the “social” part of “social media” by soliciting other birthday messages via their platform of choice.

24. “Look at this cute little guy! Hard to believe he grew up to be my brother. He still has the same smile, though.”

Social media birthday posts provide a great opportunity to show off nostalgic family photos. 

25. “Today we were lucky enough to celebrate my brother’s 30th birthday. It was so nice to have the whole family together for the occasion. Happy birthday, Tyrone!”

Social media posts are also a good place to post photos of family get-togethers happening in the present time. In the years to come, they will become treasured memories. 

‘Happy Birthday, Brother-in-Law’ Messages

Having kids isn't the only way to grow a family. As your siblings get married, you'll inevitably gain new family members. Here are some thoughtful birthday messages you might send to your brother-in-law on his special day.

26. “When Julia married you, I didn’t lose a sister - I gained a brother. We’re all so happy that you’ve joined our family. Happy birthday!”

Families aren’t always very welcoming toward a new spouse. This touching message clarifies to your brother-in-law that he is more than welcome. 

27. “After his transition, Mark worried that he wouldn’t find a partner who would accept him. Thank you for loving my brother exactly as he is. You’ve done so much more than that - you understand him on such a profound level. I hope you have your happiest birthday yet.”

Siblings often feel protective of one another. This message acknowledges that dynamic while also valuing your brother-in-law’s contributions.

28. “Kate always swore up and down that she would never get married. So when she called us to announce she had eloped, we were shocked. But now we see that there’s a reason you were the exception to her rule. I’ve never met a couple more perfectly suited to one another (please don’t tell my wife I said that though”. Happy birthday!”

A touch of humor perfectly tempers this earnest and emotional message. Sometimes balance is best.   

29. “It wasn’t always easy growing up as the only boy out of six siblings. Every time my parents brought another baby home from the hospital, I hoped it would be a brother. Well, it took thirty years, but I finally got the brother I kept asking for! Happy birthday, bro.”

Is your brother-in-law the brother you always wanted? Don’t be afraid to let him know that! A birthday message is the perfect opportunity to let him know how much he means to you. 

30. “I know you and Sarah aren’t together anymore, but I wanted to make sure you know that you’re still family to me. Steve and the kids and I send our warmest birthday wishes your way.”

Sometimes marriages don’t work out. But just because a romantic relationship didn’t work out, it doesn’t mean the remaining familial relationships have to fall away automatically. This message clarifies that you don’t regard him as your ex-brother-in-law.

Famous Happy Birthday Quotes For a Brother

Some people are blessed with the gift of eloquence. Others, not so much. If you can’t think of the right words to wish your brother a happy birthday, you can borrow them from more gifted wordsmiths. These famous birthday quotes can double as sweet birthday wishes. Add a personal touch to these quotes by expanding upon them in your own words. 

36. “I think, at a child’s birth, if a mother could ask a fairy godmother to endow it with the most useful gift, that gift should be curiosity.” - Eleanor Roosevelt

If your brother was constantly getting into trouble growing up, this message could have a humorous twist. For example, you could say something like, “I don’t know if mom would have cosigned that sentiment!”

37. "You are only young once, but you can be immature for a lifetime.” - Germaine Greer

If you and your brother enjoy teasing each other, this quote can pay homage to your playful relationship. Be sure to balance this kind of quote with a positive and sincere birthday message.  

38. “The great thing about getting older is you don’t lose all the other ages you’ve been.” - Madeleine L’Engle

If your brother is sensitive about getting older, look for an inspirational quote to make him feel better. This one is particularly beautiful because it reminds us that we are the sum of our life experiences. 

39. “Let us never know what old age is. Let us know the happiness time brings, not count the years.” - Decimus Magnus Ausonius

Throwing “over the hill” parties used to be all the rage. But these days, people are taking a kinder, gentler approach when celebrating aging. This quote is a perfect example.

40. “I wanted to buy a candle holder, but the store didn’t have one. So I got a cake.” - Mitch Hedberg

Some brothers appreciate sentimental messages, while others are borderline allergic to emotions. If your sibling falls into the latter group, keep things light with a funny message from a comedian.  

‘Happy Birthday’ Messages for a Brother Who’s Far Away

Sometimes life takes us far away from our families. But no matter how far away your brother gets, you’ll still hold him close in your heart. His birthday is an excellent time to let him know that.

41. “Remember when we were kids and we’d wake each other up at midnight to say happy birthday? I may not be able to do that this year, but I can at least send you this midnight birthday text! I hope you appreciate the fact that I did math to figure out the time zones. Happy b-day!”

Birthdays can bring up all kinds of fond childhood memories. If you’re feeling nostalgic, why not share the love?

42. “I know I can be an annoying little sister, but you didn’t have to run halfway around the world to escape from me! I never realized I would miss you this much. Happy birthday, bro!”

If you and your brother had a turbulent relationship growing up, sometimes it’s nice to joke about it as adults. But be sure to take a moment to express your sincere love for him, too. 

43. “When we were just teenagers growing up in our small hometown, you always talked about how you couldn’t wait to see what else the world had to offer. Now, I get to enjoy living vicariously through you as you document your traveling adventures. I’m so proud of you for pursuing your dreams. I hope you have a happy birthday wherever you are!”

When your brother is making an impact in the world, it’s lovely to let him know how much you look up to him. Tell him just how much you admire his achievements. 

44. “I have to admit, I was terrified when you told me that you were joining the military. Even all these years later, I get so worried when you have to deploy. But despite my concerns, I have also always been so proud of you. Happy birthday, and thank you for making the world safer.”

Sometimes we react poorly to our siblings’ life choices. But ultimately, we end up realizing that they need to live their own lives without worrying about what everyone else thinks. This message makes it clear that you support your brother no matter how you may feel about his choices. 

45. “As much as I’ve enjoyed my time studying abroad, I’ve also had moments of homesickness. The thoughtful care packages you’ve sent me have brought me happiness on those hard days. I hope this birthday present brings you as much joy as you have given me.”

Our family can give us so much comfort, even if they’re far away. If your brother has helped you adapt to being far from home, his birthday is the ideal occasion to let him know how meaningful his support is.

Heartwarming or Touching Birthday Wishes for a Brother

It’s easy to take our siblings for granted. But birthdays provide us with the opportunity to show them some appreciation. Get a little sentimental with these sweet birthday messages. 

46. “Before you left for college, I was excited to get my own room and be an only child for a while. But even though you and I have driven each other crazy over the years, I miss having you around. (I know, it was a surprise to me, too.) I hope you have a really happy birthday.” 

Absence, as they say, makes the heart grow fonder. You may not understand how much your brother means to you until he’s not around to bug you every day. 

47. “You know more than anyone else how hard it was growing up in our family. It’s a miracle that we both survived to adulthood. I didn’t realize at the time how much you tried to shield me from the dysfunction around us. Thank you for being my protector. You deserve to be happy every day, especially on your birthday.”

Some sibling relationships are forged in fire and become that much stronger because of it. On your brother’s birthday, let him know he was your knight in shining armor. 

48. “I feel like I hit the jackpot when it comes to brothers. So many of my friends complained about their siblings growing up, and I always felt sorry that they didn’t know what they were missing. Our relationship is one of the best things in my life. Happy birthday, brother.”

When you hear people griping about their siblings, it’s much easier to appreciate what you have. Sharing your insights with your brother is a great gift. 

49. “When you were diagnosed with cancer, I was so scared that we’d never get to celebrate your birthday together again. But against all odds, you are here and as healthy as ever. I’m so proud of you for overcoming so many obstacles, and I look forward to sharing many happy birthdays with you.”

A traumatic event can help you realize everything you have to be grateful for. On your brother’s birthday, celebrate his renewed lease on life. 

50. “I’ve shared so many things with you over the years - namely, a womb, a room, and a birthday. Twins are supposed to be close, but I don’t think there’s anyone with a bond as unique as ours. Happy birthday to my other half.”

One great thing about being a twin? You don’t have to worry about your brother forgetting your birthday. Be sure to make his day special, too. 

Make Your Brother’s Birthday Better With Thoughtful Messages

Brothers can be exasperating and overbearing. They can also be sweet, kind, and your biggest cheerleader. On their birthday, show them how much you mean to them. Whether you send a card or take to social media, he’ll appreciate knowing you care. 

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