50+ Ways to Say 'Happy Birthday in Heaven, Husband’

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Are you facing your husband's birthday for the first time since he has passed? Or is it the twenty-first time you have had to celebrate his birthday without him? Regardless, special days can be difficult for survivors. A day that was once spent in celebration has now turned into a day spent in grief. We are here to help you as you face this day. Wishing a loved one a happy birthday in heaven can help you grieve, remember, and celebrate them.

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Use these suggestions to help you say "happy birthday in heaven" to the man you lost.

Read a Poem That Says 'Happy Birthday in Heaven' to Your Husband

Perhaps you are looking for a poem that expresses the renewed grief you feel as your husband's birthday approaches. Here are several verses that you can read. You could also post them on your social media accounts to share how you are feeling. 

Some of these poems are about the birthday of a deceased loved one. Others are specifically about a husband's birthday. These poems are attributed to the author when possible, but many were published anonymously.

"Missing You on Your Birthday" by Anonymous

This rhyming poem speaks about the kindness of the one you lost. It also expresses how difficult it is to pass a loved one's birthday without commemorating it.

"For Your Birthday in Heaven" by Toni Kane

Toni Kane is a prolific poet who writes a lot about grieving. In this rhyming poem, Kane expresses how she sends birthday greetings to her dead loved one. She does this by making a wish upon a star.

"For Your Birthday in Heaven" by Toni Kane

Toni Kane wrote many birthday poems using the same title. For this poem, Kane imagines celebrating a birthday among heavenly angels. This imagery could help bring solace to any survivor.

"In Loving Memory of a Very Special Husband" by Anonymous

This rhyming poem speaks about how God had made a soulmate for you. It also talks about how special it is to have found your soulmate. The poet goes on to imagine what it will feel like when you are reunited with your loved one in Heaven.

"Husband in Heaven" by Anonymous

This poet tells the reader that she thinks about her husband every day. Though time is supposed to heal all wounds, she feels broken-hearted at the loss of her husband. This poem can remind you that you are not alone in your grief. 

"To My Husband; I Remember" by Anonymous

"To My Husband; I Remember" reflects upon all the important steps in a loving relationship. From the first time you say "I love you”, to buying a house together, this poem touches on the milestones of a relationship.

"A Message From Heaven" by Allison Coxsey

This poem takes a different approach than the others on our list. Coxsey writes from the perspective of a person in Heaven. They are sending a message back to a loved one on Earth. The message is full of reassurances that their pain is gone. And that angels escorted them to Heaven.

“Loneliness” by Mary Oliver

If you have never heard of Mary Oliver, do yourself a favor and go buy a copy of Devotions. Oliver’s poetry is easily accessible, and some of her most recent poems are focused on grief. 

This poem is about the healing power of nature when you suddenly feel alone, misunderstood, and rejected. 

“The Sadness of Clothes” by Emily Fragos

What have you done with your husband’s clothes? One would think that getting rid of clothes would be a simple process. All it requires is a trip to a second-hand store. However, there’s something very personal about a person’s clothes that makes them difficult to donate.

This poem by Emily Fragos tries to explain this unique experience. 

“Husband” by Mary C. McCarthy

This poem tries to describe heart-wrenching grief. The speaker is as “lonely as the man in a space suit” or the “deep sea diver who must carry all his air with him.”

The final lines of the poem are as follows:

“I will stand here 
and howl my loss
beneath the stony moon
until even you
will hear me.”

“Time does not bring relief” by Edna St. Vincent Millay

Did people tell you that time will heal all wounds at your husband’s funeral? This poem calls out that myth. It begins:

“Time does not bring relief; you all have lied
Who told me time would ease me of my pain!
I will miss him in the weeping rain.”

From “Because What Else Could I Do” by Martha Collins

Some widows have difficulty knowing what to do with their loved one’s cremated remains. In this poem, they are “in a plastic box on your dresser 

Where you kept your socks and put your change –”

This poem also asks those difficult questions, such as “What will I do at home in my own house? What will I do with my one spoon and my wide bed?”

Read our list of the best funeral poems if you'd like more inspiration.

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Say 'Happy Birthday in Heaven, Husband' With a Quote

Some of these quotes are specific to husbands. But others might bring solace to anyone grieving. Reading and reflecting upon these quotes can be helpful. You could consider saving them somehow. Writing them in a journal or making a file on your computer for reference could also help you with your grief.

You may also consider posting these quotes on social media to remind people of the relevance of the day. You could be surprised by how many people reach out with their support.

  • "My dearest, on the day that you were born, Earth received such an amazing gift. And on the day that you died, Heaven received a very special angel." - Anonymous
  • "If tears could bring a stairway, and memory a lane, I'd walk right up to Heaven and bring you home again." - Anonymous
  • "May the winds of heaven blow softly, and whisper in your ear, how much we love and miss you, and wish that you were here." - Anonymous
  • "If I live my life a thousand times, I wish that you will be my husband each time." - Anonymous
  • "Were God to grant me just one wish, then make that wish come true, you'd be here right beside me, and I'd spend this day with you." - Anonymous
  • "Because someone we love is in Heaven, there's a little bit of Heaven in our home." - Anonymous
  • "The little things that seemed so small are now gold in a memory vault." - Anonymous
  • “Grief makes one hour ten.” – William Shakespeare
  • “Where you used to be, there is a hole in the world, which I find myself constantly walking around in the daytime, and falling in at night. I miss you like hell.” – Edna St. Vincent Millay
  • “Although it’s difficult today to see beyond the sorrow, May looking back in memory help comfort you tomorrow.” – Unknown
  • “As long as I can I will look at this world for both of us. As long as I can I will laugh with the birds, I will sing with the flowers, I will pray to the stars, for both of us.” – Sascha
  • “Sorrow makes us all children again – destroys all differences of intellect. The wisest know nothing.” – Ralph Waldo Emerson

Listen to or Sing a Song to Remember Their Birthday

How many times have you turned to music to help you deal with your emotions? Music can help during times of grief. The song could be about death or heaven. Or it was important to your relationship. Maybe the song has nothing to do with love or death, but you know that your husband liked it. 

Here are some songs you could consider listening to on your husband's birthday.

"Tears in Heaven" by Eric Clapton

This song is about the death of Clapton's four-year-old son, not about the death of a husband. Regardless, this beautiful song imagines what our existence will be like after we die.

"Candle in the Wind" by Elton John

Again, this song is not about the death of a husband. But it does reflect on the life of someone gone too soon. Initially written for Marilyn Monroe, John rewrote the song as a tribute to Lady Diana.

"Let It Be" by The Beatles

This song says that even though we are grieving and hurting, we need to approach life calmly. We can be assured that everything is going to be alright. Read our list of the best Beatles songs for a funeral for more.

"I'll Fly Away" by Albert Brumley

Written in 1929, this song is one of the most traditional gospel songs to be recorded. Brumley's song talks about the release from pain after death.

"When We All Get to Heaven" by Eliza Hewitt

Hewitt, a schoolteacher from Philadelphia, wrote the text of this song/hymn.

"Spirit in the Sky" by Norman Greenbaum

This 1969 classic has become a popular choice to play at wakes and funerals.

"I'm Going to Love You Forever" by Libby Allen

This YouTube hit is specifically about the loss of a husband.

“My Heart Will Go On” by Celine Dion

You may not feel that your heart will go on. In fact, you might feel that your heart is broken. Read the lyrics to the chorus so that you can be reminded of the theme of this famous song from “Titanic.”

“Near, far, wherever you are
I believe that the heart does go on
Once more, you open the door
And you’re here in my heart
And my heart will go on and on.”

“How Can You Mend a Broken Heart?” by Al Green

The Bee Gees also recorded this heart-wrenching song. It includes these lines: “How can you mend this broken man? How can a loser ever win? Please help me mend my broken heart and let me live again.”

“See You Again” by Carrie Underwood

“See You Again” is about how we carry our loved one’s memories with us until we see our loved ones again in Heaven. “I will see you again. This is not where it ends. I will carry you with me, ‘till I see you again.”

“I’ll Be Missing You” by Sean Combs and Faith Evans

This popular 90s song includes these lyrics:

“It’s kinda hard with you not around (yeah)
Know you in Heaven smilin’ down
Watchin’ us while we pray for you
Every day we pray for you
‘Til the day we meet again
In my heart is where I’ll keep you friend.”

“I Can Only Imagine” by Mercy Me 

The speaker in this song tries to imagine Heaven. It’s an uplifting song that includes the following lines:

“Surrounded by Your glory
What will my heart feel?
Will I dance for you, Jesus
Or in awe of You be still?
Will I stand in your presence
Or to my knees will I fall?
Will I sing hallelujah?
Will I be able to speak at all?
I can only imagine, yeah
I can only imagine.” 

Write a Private 'Happy Birthday, Husband' Message 

Many people still speak to their deceased loved ones. It doesn’t matter that they will not get a response. Perhaps they feel as if their loved one is always present and listening. Maybe speaking words out loud alleviates some of the loneliness they are feeling. 

Here are some birthday messages that you might want to reflect on. You could write them in your journal or even say them aloud for your loved one. It's always best to speak from the heart, but sometimes it can be hard to know what to say—these messages can help get you started.

  • Happy birthday to my guardian angel in heaven. I miss you every day.
  • Although my life has never been the same since you died, I know that you are rejoicing with the angels in Heaven. I know that I will see you again one day.
  • Although we said "till death do us part" in our wedding vows, I believe that we are still married and will be forever. I will see you in heaven, my dear husband.
  • Today is my husband's birthday. I am celebrating without him for the first time. I am finding solace in recalling my husband's favorite things. Michael loved blues music but hated jazz. He loved to travel, especially exploring national parks. His favorite place in the world was Zion. Michael loved to cook, and could be very particular about what he ate. But his favorite “restaurant” was Chipotle. That’s what I loved about him—he was so quirky.
  • Since this would have been my husband's 37th birthday, I am going to spend the day doing 37 acts of kindness. Some of my actions will be simple. I'm going to call those important to me and tell them how much I love them. I'm going to buy a stranger's coffee at Starbucks’ drive-through. And I'm going to donate John’s old suits to someone who needs them. These acts are things my husband would have done. To honor his memory I am doing them today.
  • You would be so proud of Sophia. She made the varsity soccer team and scored two goals in the first game of the season. I know she is trying to keep a brave face for me, but I know she’s been hurting a lot lately. She was so used to hearing your voice cheering from the sidelines, and it was hard for her to enjoy the game without you there. Some days it’s a struggle to get out of bed. My counselor encouraged me to visit her twice a week for a while, but the sessions are so exhausting that I’m not sure I could handle so many. People say that time heals all wounds, but I feel as sad today as I did the day after you died.
  • Do you remember that birthday when everything went wrong? Sammy attempted to bring you breakfast in bed but spilled orange juice all over our down comforter. There was an hour and a half wait at your favorite BBQ place for lunch, and they ran out of burnt ends right before you ordered. Your present was supposed to be delivered that day, but instead, we got a message that it wouldn’t arrive until the following week. I would give anything to see Sammy spill orange juice on you again.
  • My Darling, I had a great day today. I even caught myself laughing several times. But I feel guilty about it. I know you wouldn’t want me to sit around and be sad until I die, but somehow I feel like I’m dishonoring you if I’m happy.

‘Happy Birthday in Heaven Husband’ Posts to write on Facebook or social media

You may have a lot of Facebook memories on your husband’s birthday. But, now that he is gone, you have to decide whether you will share a post or not.

Here are some of the ways people typically handle this situation.

  • I’m missing you on your birthday, Bob! Today we would have gone to the casino and dined out on steak and lobster. Maybe someday I’ll feel strong enough to celebrate your birthday by doing your favorite things, but I can’t this year. 
  • Happy birthday in heaven, Michael! I can’t believe it’s been seven years since we were able to celebrate together. I miss you every day.
  • Today would have been George’s 78th birthday. In memory of my husband, please do something kind for someone in need. 
  • This is always a bittersweet day for me. On the one hand, I love seeing all my Facebook memories on Peter’s birthday. We had some grand celebrations over the years! But, of course, I miss Peter every day. Here are some of my favorite pictures from past parties. 
  • This is a difficult day for me. Jose would have been 65 today, but he died before he could retire. I feel robbed of the golden years we were supposed to spend together. 
  • Please help me honor Paul today by sharing a memory of my wonderful husband. 
  • Today my husband is spending his birthday with Jesus. Like the lyrics to the song go, “I can only imagine!”
  • Tonight, I listen to Jack’s playlist, drink wine, and dance in the kitchen. Happy birthday to the love of my life!
  • Losing you was one of the hardest things I ever had to go through. I have comfort that you are now at peace, but I miss you every day.
  • There’s so much I want to tell you, Ryan! I hope you are looking down on us and smiling.
  • To my husband in Heaven: Please know that you are loved and missed every day.
  • Till we meet again!
  • Happy birthday to my guardian angel! I feel better knowing that you are watching over me. 
  • I miss your voice. (I loved it when you would sing to me!)
  • I miss your warm hugs. (They made me feel protected and safe!)
  • I miss your smile. (Your smiles made me feel as though I were the only girl in the room!) 
  • No matter how long you have been gone, I will never forget your birthday! Happy birthday in Heaven to Thomas!
  • Happy birthday, Jorge. Even though we miss you on earth, I take comfort knowing that you are with your mom, your brother, and our little Sophia. I hope you are all celebrating together!
  • Today would have been James’ 50th birthday. To celebrate, I’m going to post something every hour that reminds me of my husband. Here’s the first one – this is the song we danced to at our wedding 26 years ago.
  • Many of you have reached out to me today to see how I’m doing. As you understand, these days are difficult for me. However, I have learned to accept that grief will forever be a part of my life. Here’s one of my favorite quotes about grief that I discovered this year: “She was no longer wrestling with the grief, but could sit down with it as a lasting companion and make it a sharer in her thoughts.” – George Eliot

Tribute or Memorial Ideas That Say ‘Happy Birthday in Heaven, Husband’

Some people celebrate their loved one’s birthdays by performing an act of service. Sometimes people gather together to share memories or tributes of the deceased. Here are some ideas on how to spend your loved one’s special day.

Put flowers on their grave

Many people visit the cemetery on special days of the year. Consider bringing flowers, a note, or another small gift to leave behind. However, make sure you understand the cemetery rules before leaving items on the grave.

Gather with family

Others may be suffering on your husband’s birthday. Consider gathering with the rest of the family to share a meal or a toast to this special man.

Volunteer at their favorite non-profit

Did your husband have the heart of a servant? Give back to the community in memory of your husband by spending the day at his favorite charitable organization.

Plant a tree

Think about how beautiful your yard will be if you plant a tree, bush, or perennial every year in honor of your loved one. Then, add decorative items, such as stepping stones or wind chimes to create a memory garden. 

Donate to a charity

Perhaps you cannot volunteer your time at your husband’s favorite charity. Then, consider raising money to donate in honor of his birthday. Again, social media makes this a simple process. 

Look at photos

Spend several hours looking at photos and watching videos of your husband. This trip down memory lane may be bittersweet, but it will keep his memory alive.

Visit a lonely neighbor

We know you are hurting on this day. One way to receive some solace is by spending time with someone else who is hurting. 

Write in a journal

You might have a lot of emotions to work through on this day. Consider taking an hour to write your thoughts and feelings in a journal. If you aren’t sure where to start, look through a list of quotes about grief to inspire you.

Listen to music

Music is the soundtrack of our lives. The beginning strands of a guitar can immediately transport you back 30 years to when you first met the love of your life. So take a walk down memory lane by listening to the songs that remind you of your husband.

Take a drive

If you have lived in the same community most of your life, drive by those important places to you and your husband. For example, go by his childhood home, high school, where you were married, your first home, etc. Listen to music while you drive and talk with your husband.

Take a long walk

Exercise is good for the body, mind, and soul. Unfortunately, some people struggle to get out of bed on difficult anniversaries. If this describes your situation, try to force yourself to take a walk.

Talk with someone

You may be frustrated with your family and friends for forgetting your husband’s birthday. Please understand that others probably remember this significant date, but they struggle to know what to say to you. They may feel some relief if you broach the subject and lead the conversation.

Celebrating Your Husband on His Birthday

If you or your children are having a tough time coming to terms with the death of your husband, consider a book. Reading what experts have to say could help. There are plenty of books about grief. And children's books about death are becoming increasingly available. Reading something with your family may help you with the grieving process.

Birthdays, death anniversaries, and Father's Day without him can be tough after you lose someone important. Consider making plans to spend the day with someone who can support you. Even though no one can make your grief go away, they can at least help you understand how to go on with life. 

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