Are you facing your husband's birthday for the first time since he has passed? Or is it the twenty-first time you have had to celebrate his birthday without him? Regardless, special days can be difficult for survivors. A day that was once spent in celebration has now turned into a day spent in grief. We are here to help you as you face this day. Wishing a loved one a happy birthday in heaven can help you grieve, remember, and celebrate them.
Jump ahead to these sections:
- Read a Poem That Says 'Happy Birthday in Heaven' to Your Husband
- Say 'Happy Birthday in Heaven, Husband' With a Quote
- Listen to or Sing a Song to Remember Their Birthday
Use these suggestions to help you say "happy birthday in heaven" to the man you lost.
Read a Poem That Says 'Happy Birthday in Heaven' to Your Husband
Perhaps you are looking for a poem that expresses the renewed grief you feel as your husband's birthday approaches. Here are several verses that you can read. You could also post them on your social media accounts to share how you are feeling.
Some of these poems are about the birthday of a deceased loved one. Others are specifically about a husband's birthday. These poems are attributed to the author when possible, but many were published anonymously.
"Missing You on Your Birthday" by Anonymous
This rhyming poem speaks about the kindness of the one you lost. It also expresses how difficult it is to pass a loved one's birthday without commemorating it.
"For Your Birthday in Heaven" by Toni Kane
Toni Kane is a prolific poet who writes a lot about grieving. In this rhyming poem, Kane expresses how she sends birthday greetings to her dead loved one. She does this by making a wish upon a star.
"For Your Birthday in Heaven" by Toni Kane
Toni Kane wrote many birthday poems using the same title. For this poem, Kane imagines celebrating a birthday among heavenly angels. This imagery could help bring solace to any survivor.
"In Loving Memory of a Very Special Husband" by Anonymous
This rhyming poem speaks about how God had made a soulmate for you. It also talks about how special it is to have found your soulmate. The poet goes on to imagine what it will feel like when you are reunited with your loved one in Heaven.
"Husband in Heaven" by Anonymous
This poet tells the reader that she thinks about her husband every day. Though time is supposed to heal all wounds, she feels broken-hearted at the loss of her husband. This poem can remind you that you are not alone in your grief.
"To My Husband; I Remember" by Anonymous
"To My Husband; I Remember" reflects upon all the important steps in a loving relationship. From the first time you say "I love you”, to buying a house together, this poem touches on the milestones of a relationship.
"A Message From Heaven" by Allison Coxsey
This poem takes a different approach than the others on our list. Coxsey writes from the perspective of a person in Heaven. They are sending a message back to a loved one on Earth. The message is full of reassurances that their pain is gone. And that angels escorted them to Heaven.
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Say 'Happy Birthday in Heaven, Husband' With a Quote
Some of these quotes are specific to husbands. But others might bring solace to anyone grieving. Reading and reflecting upon these quotes can be helpful. You could consider saving them somehow. Writing them in a journal or making a file on your computer for reference could also help you with your grief.
You may also consider posting these quotes on social media to remind people of the relevance of the day. You could be surprised by how many people reach out with their support.
- "My dearest, on the day that you were born, Earth received such an amazing gift. And on the day that you died, Heaven received a very special angel." - Anonymous
- "If tears could bring a stairway, and memory a lane, I'd walk right up to Heaven and bring you home again." - Anonymous
- "May the winds of heaven blow softly, and whisper in your ear, how much we love and miss you, and wish that you were here." - Anonymous
- "If I live my life a thousand times, I wish that you will be my husband each time." - Anonymous
- "Were God to grant me just one wish, then make that wish come true, you'd be here right beside me, and I'd spend this day with you." - Anonymous
- "Because someone we love is in Heaven, there's a little bit of Heaven in our home." - Anonymous
- "The little things that seemed so small are now gold in a memory vault." - Anonymous
Listen to or Sing a Song to Remember Their Birthday
How many times have you turned to music to help you deal with your emotions? Music can help during times of grief. The song could be about death or heaven. Or it was important to your relationship. Maybe the song has nothing to do with love or death, but you know that your husband liked it.
Here are some songs you could consider listening to on your husband's birthday.
"Tears in Heaven" by Eric Clapton
This song is about the death of Clapton's four-year-old son, not about the death of a husband. Regardless, this beautiful song imagines what our existence will be like after we die.
"Candle in the Wind" by Elton John
Again, this song is not about the death of a husband. But it does reflect on the life of someone gone too soon. Initially written for Marilyn Monroe, John rewrote the song as a tribute to Lady Diana.
"Let It Be" by The Beatles
This song says that even though we are grieving and hurting, we need to approach life calmly. We can be assured that everything is going to be alright. Read our list of the best Beatles songs for a funeral for more.
"I'll Fly Away" by Albert Brumley
Written in 1929, this song is one of the most traditional gospel songs to be recorded. Brumley's song talks about the release from pain after death.
"When We All Get to Heaven" by Eliza Hewitt
Hewitt, a schoolteacher from Philadelphia, wrote the text of this song/hymn.
"Spirit in the Sky" by Norman Greenbaum
This 1969 classic has become a popular choice to play at wakes and funerals.
"I'm Going to Love You Forever" by Libby Allen
This YouTube hit is specifically about the loss of a husband.
Write a Private 'Happy Birthday, Husband' Message
Many people still speak to their deceased loved ones. It doesn’t matter that they will not get a response. Perhaps they feel as if their loved one is always present and listening. Maybe speaking words out loud alleviates some of the loneliness they are feeling.
Here are some birthday messages that you might want to reflect on. You could write them in your journal or even say them aloud for your loved one. It's always best to speak from the heart, but sometimes it can be hard to know what to say—these messages can help get you started.
- Happy birthday to my guardian angel in heaven. I miss you every day.
- Although my life has never been the same since you died, I know that you are rejoicing with the angels in Heaven. I know that I will see you again one day.
- Although we said "till death do us part" in our wedding vows, I believe that we are still married and will be forever. I will see you in heaven, my dear husband.
- Today is my husband's birthday. I am celebrating without him for the first time. I am finding solace in recalling my husband's favorite things. Michael loved blues music but hated jazz. He loved to travel, especially exploring national parks. His favorite place in the world was Zion. Michael loved to cook, and could be very particular about what he ate. But his favorite “restaurant” was Chipotle. That’s what I loved about him—he was so quirky.
- Since this would have been my husband's 37th birthday, I am going to spend the day doing 37 acts of kindness. Some of my actions will be simple. I'm going to call those important to me and tell them how much I love them. I'm going to buy a stranger's coffee at Starbucks’ drive-through. And I'm going to donate John’s old suits to someone who needs them. These acts are things my husband would have done. To honor his memory I am doing them today.
Celebrating Your Husband on His Birthday
If you or your children are having a tough time coming to terms with the death of your husband, consider a book. Reading what experts have to say could help. There are plenty of books about grief. And children's books about death are becoming increasingly available. Reading something with your family may help you with the grieving process.
Birthdays, death anniversaries, and Father's Day without him can be tough after you lose someone important. Consider making plans to spend the day with someone who can support you. Even though no one can make your grief go away, they can at least help you understand how to go on with life.