How to Say 'Happy Birthday in Heaven' to Your Mom


Losing a parent is hard. And no matter the type of relationship you had, it can be challenging to lose your mom. Many people don't feel that life is the same after their mom is gone. You may feel like no one is looking out for you anymore. Or you may feel like you have no one to turn to in times of need. 

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Many challenges may arise when your mom passes. It's hard coming up with the words to say when you are writing a eulogy. You may turn to books on grief to help cope with the loss. It’s possible the loss of your mother feels most difficult around her birthday. A day that used to be one of celebration is now one of grief. 

Here are some words to help you get say "happy birthday in heaven."

Say 'Happy Birthday in Heaven, Mom' With a Famous Quote

Hopefully, these quotes will help you deal with your myriad of emotions. Reflect on these words. Share them with your family. You probably aren't the only person grieving your mom’s birthday. Reach out to others who may be feeling the same and share your emotions. Grieving together can be a helpful thing to do at a time like this.

  • "There are two bright stars in the sky today. One is the Star of God, and one is you! I hope you keep shining bright. Happy birthday, mom!" - Anonymous
  • "Motherhood: All love ends and begins there." - Robert Browning, poet
  • "I cried endlessly when you died, but I promise I won't let the tears mar the smiles that you'd given me when you were alive." - Anonymous
  • "If I had a flower for every time I thought of you, I could walk in my own garden forever." - Alfred, Lord Tennyson, poet
  • "Death leaves a heartache no one can heal; love leaves a memory no one can steal." - Anonymous
  • "Mothers hold their children's hands for a while, but their hearts forever." - Anonymous
  • "The hardest thing is not talking to someone you used to talk to every day." - Anonymous
  • "I remember my mother's prayers, and they have always followed me. They have clung to me all my life." - Abraham Lincoln, president
  • "I hate visiting your grave on your birthday because the words on your epitaph don't do justice to the amazing person that you were." - Anonymous
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Reflect on a Poem That Wishes Your Mom 'Happy Birthday in Heaven'

The words of poets and songwriters often make us feel more connected to others. Here are some poems, some by famous writers and others you may have never heard of before. All reflect on the lives of people that were called "mom."

"Loved So Deeply" by J.K. Rowling

This excerpt from a Harry Potter book can also be read as a stand-alone poem. It reminds us that a mother's love acts as a layer of protection around us always.

"Remember Me" by Laura Ingles Wilder

These thoughts were written by the woman behind the Little House books. Wilder gives us the perfect way to remember our mothers — with "smiles and laughter."

"If There Are Any Heavens" by e.e. cummings

This American poet wrote about a wide variety of subjects. In this poem, he reflects upon the heaven of his mother.

"A Heart So Large" by Mark Twain

Mark Twain's classic poem honors the love in a mother’s heart. 

"The Watcher" by Margaret Widdemer

Mothers are known for keeping a watchful eye on their children. Even when their children are grown, they’re still watching out for them. In this poem, Widdemer thinks that her mother is still keeping an eye on her. Only now she is watching from Heaven's gate.

"In Memory of My Mother" by Patrick Kavanaugh

In his poem, Kavanaugh doesn't think about his mother as she lies in her grave. Instead, he imagines her going through a typical day. He thinks of her walking down the lane returning from the second mass of the day.

And in his imagination, she reminds him of his chores that still need to be finished. It is a reminder of the day-to-day role mothers play in our lives. 

"An Eternal Memory of Your Birthday" by Anonymous

In this rhyming poem, the writer expresses how much people miss the deceased. This poem isn't specifically about the death of a mother. But its sentiments ring true for anyone who is suffering from the death of a family member. 

"Roses for my Mum in Heaven on Her Birthday" by Anonymous

In this rhyming poem, the speaker asks God to pick a bunch of roses to give to their mother, who is in Heaven. 

"Missing You on Your Birthday Mum" by Anonymous

In this poem, the writer expresses disbelief that another year has passed without their mom. The end of the verse says, "so I'll say 'Goodbye' for now, and blow a kiss to Heaven above. To wish you a Happy Birthday and send you all my love." 

"I'm Sending a Dove" by Anonymous

Although many poems about death include references to flowers, this one contains a reference to a bird. In this poem, the dove has a parcel full of a million kisses and hugs. It delivers them to a mom in Heaven.

Write a Tribute for Your Mom's Birthday on Your Facebook Profile

Many people write a tribute to their mothers on their birthdays on social media. People continue to do this once their mothers have passed away. Regardless of what platform you use, writing a heartfelt message can be difficult.

Here are some words to inspire you:

Mom, I miss you every day. Life has not been the same since you have passed away. I know we will see each other in the afterlife. But I miss being able to pick up the phone and call you on my way home from work. I miss our coffee dates. And I miss how special you made us all feel on our birthdays. Happy birthday, Mom!

Today would have been my mom's 73rd birthday. In celebration of this woman who gave so much, I ask you to perform a random act of kindness today. Help me commemorate my mom's birthday. Think about my mom, Roberta Louise Smith, as you do it. 

"My mom loved Earl Gray tea in the morning and "a splash" of Chardonnay in the evening. She enjoyed watching golf on TV and played canasta every Thursday with friends. My mom loved romantic comedies. She rang the bells for the Salvation Army every Christmas. And she volunteered to serve every funeral dinner at church. Today would have been her 80th birthday. I just wanted to remind everybody about this special woman that no longer walks this Earth. Happy birthday, mom!"

"Today my mom would have been 78. I want to keep my mom's memory alive.  Please take a moment to share a story about my mom in the comments. How did she impact your life? What do you remember most about her? My dad and I look forward to reading your stories."

Compose a Personal Message to Say 'Happy Birthday in Heaven, Mom'

Sometimes the pain of losing a mother is too deep. It can feel too private to put your emotions on social media. And not every emotion can be shared on social media. People grieve in unique ways. You may feel anger or jealousy mixed in with your sadness. Especially if you didn’t get a chance to say goodbye, your emotions could be all over the place. Even if you did say goodbye, there are still a lot of emotions to process. 

You don’t have to share your thoughts with anyone, but don’t ignore them. Consider composing a personal message to your mom in a journal. Or take a quiet moment to speak some of these words aloud.

Here are some ideas for a personal message:

"Mom, sometimes I am angry with you for dying. I know it's not fair, but I see mothers and daughters together, and it makes me upset that it isn't us. I want to celebrate your birthday with you today, but I can't. Your birthday was always such a joyous occasion. It makes me sad and angry that we don’t get to celebrate together anymore."

"Mom, I wish you were here to see how awesome my kids are doing. Chloe's eyes remind me of yours. And Ethan has your goofy sense of humor. It pains me to know that my kids won't grow up knowing you. You were such a special person. Happy birthday, mom."

"Mom, do you remember my 8th birthday? You let me invite my whole class over for a party. And we had a bonfire and cooked s’mores. You made birthdays so special for me when I was a kid. I wish I could do the same for you now that you are older. I hate that I never got the chance to spoil you for your birthday the way you always spoiled me. "

"Dad and I had a hard time today on your birthday. We didn't know what to do. We bought a cake, but somehow it didn't feel right. We are hurting, and we miss you, mom."

Celebrating Your Mom's Day

As you approach your mom's birthday, it might help to come up with a plan for how you will spend the day. Perhaps you will try to make the day "business as usual." It might be too painful for you to spend it any other way. Or maybe you plan to spend the day with your family.

Regardless of how you spend it, be prepared for a myriad of emotions to hit you on this day. You may feel joy and sadness. You may feel frustration and anger as well. Know that this is part of the grieving process. However, you feel is okay. Honor your mom by embracing these emotions. 

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