When responding to the kindness of others, you may be feeling sheepish about using the right words. How do you know what you’re saying (or not saying) won’t be misconstrued? Maybe you’re feeling verklempt or like the cat has got your tongue all of a sudden. No matter what, if you’re in a pickle about what to say—you’re not alone.
Jump ahead to these sections:
- How to Respond to ‘Thinking Of You’ Via Text
- How to Respond to ‘Thinking of You’ in an Email or Letter
- How to Respond to ‘Thinking of You’ During a Difficult Time
Listed below you’ll find a number of ways to help you express yourself better when it comes to getting notes from someone who is thinking of you. Whether that means you are responding to a boss or colleague, family member or friend, or even that new love interest, you’ll find a number of options from which to springboard so you can say just the right thing at the right time.
Tip: It's always appreciated to send someone a nice, handwritten note. We recommend keeping a pack of blank greeting cards around for when the situation arises. If you want to go a step further, try sending a small gift, like a candle set or a digital gift card.
Post-loss tip: If you are the executor for a deceased loved one, you may be receiving many of these messages yourself. Handling things like this as well as your loved one's unfinished business can be overwhelming without a way to organize your process. We have a post-loss checklist that will help you ensure that your loved one's family, estate, and other affairs are taken care of.
How to Respond to ‘Thinking Of You’ Via Text
Text messages offer great opportunities for you to perfect being concise. Take a look at the options below to see how writing a short message can actually say so much.
1. “How do you always seem to know when I need to hear that? You’re the best.”
Do you have that friend that always seems to know what to send without even the slightest hint? If so, here’s a note to send back to them that recognizes their intuition and lets them know how important they are to you.
2. “Back at you! Hope all is well.”
Sometimes it’s difficult to know what to say when you really don’t want to say anything at all. So, if you’re feeling like you just need some privacy, here’s a response that will let you deflect with grace until you feel like being chatty.
3. “Don’t worry about me. I’ll have everything under control sometime next year.”
It’s okay to add some light-hearted sarcasm if what you are going through is overwhelming. Just, know your audience and make sure your audience knows you, so they don’t feel slighted by the attempt at humor.
4. “Thank you. I needed that. Chat soon?”
Sometimes the short and sweet response is the perfect response, especially if you are too overwhelmed to get into details or continue the conversation. Adding that you’ll take an opportunity to talk later will also avert any more commentary at that very moment.
5. “Thank you for thinking of me!”
Not everyone who sends you a message of support is a trusted friend. Sometimes they are concerned acquaintances that are just trying to be thoughtful. If that’s the case here, you can offer a thank you in a way that returns the kindness without adding any details.
6. “I am so glad I have friends like you.”
Responding with a compliment when people are doing good deeds is an easy way to throw on the charm. They may be expecting just a quick “thanks,” so this response will give them a second dose of good feelings for the day.
How to Respond to ‘Thinking of You’ in an Email or Letter
Whether you are going through some stress, trauma, or getting into a new relationship, here are a few ways to offer a thank you note in response. You may want to take the following options as starting points and then launch from there if you’ve got more to say.
7. “I was just thinking of you, too! But I was wishing that you weren’t so far away. Do you want to facetime a cocktail hour with me soon? I really need to talk to a friend about everything that’s been going on lately.”
Having family surround you during tough times can be a critical step towards well-being, especially in times of crisis or stress. So, try to find ways where you can connect even if it means that all you’ll be able to do is chat over the phone.
8. “That makes two of us.”
Even if this is a slight fib, it’s still a playful way to respond to close friends or loved ones. In truth, you probably think about them a lot anyway, so it’s not too much of a stretch, right?
9. “I don’t know how, but you always know what to say and when to say it. Anyways, thank you for always knowing when to check up on me and the kids. Your sixth sense amazes me.”
Some people have a knack for being incredibly observant. If you have someone like this in your life, tell them how much you appreciate their amazing skill.
10. “I keep meaning to send you a note or call you. I’m sorry I have been so absent lately. There’s just a lot going on right now. I don’t have a lot of time to catch you up here, but do you think I could give you a call this weekend? Just let me know what time.”
Not responding to people is rude. So, even if you don’t have a lot of time, here’s a great way to respond to an email with kindness and not sound like you’re avoiding or being a bad friend.
11. “I’m so happy you sent this. I was just thinking about how much fun we had and wanted to let you know how much you’ve been on my mind, too. Would you like to try it again sometime soon?”
If this sounds like where you are with your new love interest, then take a hint from the email you just got and ask for another date. You’ll be showing both gratitude and interest, plus a ton of confidence.
12. “Everything good, I hope.”
If you just opened your email up and found a “thinking of you” sitting in your inbox from a new love interest, but with nothing else attached, here’s the best way to return to the flirt with some unspoken intrigue.
13. “You really are the best sister anyone could ever ask for.”
In some cases, the relationship does most of the talking for you. So, if you have a close relationship with your sister, then she probably already knows how you’ll respond anyway.
14. “How did I get so lucky to have you as a godmother?”
If you have one of those aunts (or uncles, cousins, etc.) that are just one of those wonderful, wonderful people, then let them know how you feel about them if they take the opportunity to reach out.
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How to Respond to ‘Thinking of You’ During a Difficult Time
Sometimes it’s tough to muster up some grace when you’re just not feeling like communicating at all. For those times, it’s easy to rely on what other people write so you don’t have to think about coming up with something on your own. So, if life has hit the fan, here’s help so you can get back to healing.
15. “Thank you. I really appreciate you taking the time to check up on me right now. Is it okay if we chat in a few days?’
If you’re not up to talking or sharing, it’s okay to let people know you’re putting up some momentary boundaries. If they’re your friend, they’ll completely understand.
16. “That’s incredibly kind of you. Our family appreciates your thoughts right now.”
If you have a professional relationship with the well-wisher or you’re just barely an acquaintance, there are several ways to respond appropriately. All you have to do is juggle the words as needed to fit the circumstance.
17. “It was so wonderful to hear from you, especially right now. To say that things have been trying is an understatement, but I am very glad to know that I have such lovely people in my life.”
No matter the hardship you may be experiencing, there’s always room to offer gratitude to people who are on your side. So, you use this phrasing when making sure that the rare gems know how precious they are to you.
18. “I really appreciate you checking in on me right now. After the funeral, I wasn’t sure how I was going to get through the days, but with friends like you around, I know I’ll be okay. So, I just want to thank you for being someone I can always count on.”
Letters like this serve a few purposes, one of which is to show gratitude while the other is to let them know they’re still needed.
19. “The worst part is over, so now I just have to worry about the healing. Thanks for checking in on me. You’re always here to remember what’s going on in my life.”
Recovering from an injury or a tough illness probably means you’ll be seeing a few sympathy messages show up. If so, here’s a quick way to tell them that all went well, but without divulging too much information. That and a lengthy explanation over ten cards is tiring for anyone.
20. “I realize this is a little late on the return, but I just wanted to say thank you for sending a card last month. Life got a little out of control the last few weeks, and I am sorry I haven’t responded sooner. But I hope this reaches you in good health and spirits.”
No matter how busy life gets, it’s appropriate to thank people for any and all ‘thinking of you’ messages no matter how tardy the reply may be. Just offer a quick reason, and then get on with what you would have said to them had the response been more timely.
21. “Thank you. My family and I appreciate your thoughts and words. And I appreciate how understanding you’ve been getting back on track.”
When life happens, don’t forget to include gratitude by way of your employer, especially if they take the time to send you a note or card. Relationships on every level are important, especially during difficult times.
‘Thank You for Thinking of Me’ Etiquette
When people show you that they care, the biggest thing they want is to be acknowledged. Even if your reply is tardy, it’s the time you take for others that matters the most.