15 Ways to Say ‘I Appreciate You’ to a Loved One


How long has it been since you have sat down to write out a list of your blessings? If you’ve never, we recommend you complete this exercise sometime soon. Writing down your blessings or keeping a gratitude journal helps you keep a positive perspective on life. After all, a thankful heart is a happy heart.

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You may notice a common theme as you write down your blessings. You may see that the essential things in life aren’t things. Instead, you see all the people in your inner circle that mean the most to you.

Let’s all make a personal goal this year to tell our loved ones that they are appreciated. Not only will this give our friends and family members warm fuzzies, but they may be inspired by your kind words and share appreciative messages to their inner circle as well. Our kind messages may have a ripple effect on the world. Let’s spread happiness, everyone!

How to Tell Someone You Appreciate Their Support After a Tragedy or Loss

If you recently experienced a tragedy in your life, you know how much the support from your family and friends means. Tell those who helped you during your darkest times that you appreciate their support. You may consider texting individual messages, writing formal thank you notes, or sending out a blanket message to your connections on social media. Here are some sample messages to consider. 

1. Most of you know by now that I recently lost my mom. Although I am heartbroken by this loss, I truly appreciate each kindness that I have experienced from you, my friends and family, in the past week. Thank you for all the messages, cards, food deliveries, and prayers. 

This is a sample message that you may want to use to respond to condolences over your social media account. Using Facebook to express appreciation is socially acceptable. Still, you may consider sending out hand-written thank you notes to those who went above and beyond in supporting you during your difficult time.

2. I know that you understand what I am going through since you also lost your baby. I truly appreciate your words of support and encouragement during this devastating time. You have been such an amazing friend.

Write a card or text a friend if you appreciate having someone who is connected in grief with you.

3. It’s during difficult times that one learns the importance of close friends and family. Thank you so much for your kind words.

This sentiment could be written on a thank you note, texted to a friend, or posted to a social media account. This statement is rather generic, so it would be best if you added in details to personalize the message if you are sending it to individuals.

4. I truly appreciate your kind actions after my father died. Thank you for bringing over the meal and picking up my uncle from the airport. It’s lovely knowing that I have a friend as thoughtful as you.

This is an example of a personalized message that you could write or text to someone who did something kind for you. 

5. Even though I plan to send notes out later, I would like to thank all of you for offering your support during my husband’s long battle with cancer. You are the best coworkers that anyone could imagine, and I appreciate everything you have done for me.

Don’t forget to express appreciation for your coworkers and boss if they supported you during the death of a family member. Chances are, they helped you more than you will ever know.

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How to Tell Someone You Appreciate Their Time or Talents

You probably aren’t good at everything. Or maybe you are talented, but you don’t have time to do all that you wish to complete. Did you recently have to turn to someone for help? Here’s how to express appreciation to that individual.

6. What would I do without you? I appreciate all the extra work you completed for the recent fundraiser. The decorations were lovely, and the programs were perfect. I am sure there are countless other things that you did to make things run smoothly. Thank you so much.

Are you the head of a committee? Make sure those working with you understand how much you appreciate their help. Those who feel appreciated may be more likely to volunteer again the next time you need help.

7. I appreciate friends like you. Thank you for driving both legs of the carpool for the last month so I could spend more time with my mom when she was going through chemo.

Sometimes we forget to express appreciation for the little things, but those little things mean so much when you are in crisis mode.

8. Thank you so much for your help with writing my dad’s obituary. You were able to perfectly express how special my dad was to everyone who knew him.

People remember to thank others for bringing meals or for sending flowers. Don’t forget to express appreciation to the people who utilized their talents when you needed help. 

9. Thank you for singing at Judy’s funeral. I know that Judy was looking down and smiling as you sang her favorite hymn so beautifully. 

Did someone sing at your family member’s funeral? Did someone else run the AV equipment, and still another person give the eulogy? Remember to express your appreciation to all those individuals for their time and talents.

10. We know that your time is precious. That’s why we would like to thank you for judging this weekend’s debate tournament. The students appreciated your insightful comments on your ballots. 

There could be a wide variety of reasons that you need to express appreciation to someone. Any time a person volunteers for a school function, you need to say thanks.

How to Tell Someone You Appreciate Their Presence 

Do you have a friend who seems to know when her presence is needed? Perhaps she shows up on your doorstep with a bottle of wine and a shoulder to cry on? Tell your friend or family member how much you appreciate them being there when you need someone’s support. 

11. I was genuinely touched that you took the time to attend my mom’s funeral. Your support means the world to me. Thank you!

Make sure you thank people who attend the funeral of a family member. No one enjoys going to funerals, so they should be commended for taking the time to offer you support.

12. I know things have been stressful lately. Thank you for taking on more of the household responsibilities, caring for our kids, and offering me endless love and support while I sat with Mom. I love and appreciate you so much.

We send thank-you notes to bosses, coworkers, friends, and extended family members. We sometimes don’t show appreciation to those closest to us. Don’t forget to thank your husband or wife.

13. How could you tell that I needed you to come over the other night? Thank you for showing up with ice cream and listening to me as I processed my latest relationship drama. You are such a great friend.

A good friend just shows up without asking. Take good care of those people in your life. They are worth their weight in gold.

14. During the last month, I have had dozens of people reach out during my time of need. Even though I appreciate those sentiments, I am touched that you came over the night that mom died. 

Be the friend who shows up with a meal when you know one is needed. Thoughts and prayers can go a long way, but being there means so much more in someone’s time of need. 

15. I know you understand the pain of losing someone you love. Thank you for coming to my brother’s funeral. 

Some people have a difficult time attending funerals. One of the main concerns people have is knowing what to say. That’s why so many people turn to the phrase, “I’m sorry for your loss.” Be gracious to those people, and thank them for being present at the funeral.

When Words Are Difficult 

Are you the type of person who thinks of the perfect thing to say days after an event? Do you get stressed when writing a condolence email or another expression of sympathy? Everyone feels tongue-tied or faces writer’s block at times. This is especially common if you are communicating with someone who has just experienced a crisis or tragedy.

Be kind to yourself. We have all experienced moments when words are difficult to find. 

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