47 Ways to Say ‘I Appreciate You’ to a Loved One


How long has it been since you have sat down to write out a list of your blessings? If you’ve never, we recommend you complete this exercise sometime soon. Writing down your blessings or keeping a gratitude journal helps you keep a positive perspective on life. After all, a thankful heart is a happy heart.

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You may notice a common theme as you write down your blessings. You may see that the essential things in life aren’t things. Instead, you see all the people in your inner circle that mean the most to you.

Let’s all make a personal goal this year to tell our loved ones that they are appreciated. Not only will this give our friends and family members warm fuzzies, but they may be inspired by your kind words and share appreciative messages to their inner circle as well. Our kind messages may have a ripple effect on the world. Let’s spread happiness, everyone!

How to Tell Someone You Appreciate Their Support After a Tragedy or Loss

If you recently experienced a tragedy in your life, you know how much the support from your family and friends means. Tell those who helped you during your darkest times that you appreciate their support. You may consider texting individual messages, writing formal thank you notes, or sending out a blanket message to your connections on social media. Here are some sample messages to consider. 

1. Most of you know by now that I recently lost my mom. Although I am heartbroken by this loss, I truly appreciate each kindness that I have experienced from you, my friends and family, in the past week. Thank you for all the messages, cards, food deliveries, and prayers. 

This is a sample message that you may want to use to respond to condolences over your social media account. Using Facebook to express appreciation is socially acceptable. Still, you may consider sending out hand-written thank you notes to those who went above and beyond in supporting you during your difficult time.

2. I know that you understand what I am going through since you also lost your baby. I truly appreciate your words of support and encouragement during this devastating time. You have been such an amazing friend.

Write a card or text a friend if you appreciate having someone who is connected in grief with you.

3. It’s during difficult times that one learns the importance of close friends and family. Thank you so much for your kind words.

This sentiment could be written on a thank you note, texted to a friend, or posted to a social media account. This statement is rather generic, so it would be best if you added in details to personalize the message if you are sending it to individuals.

4. I truly appreciate your kind actions after my father died. Thank you for bringing over the meal and picking up my uncle from the airport. It’s lovely knowing that I have a friend as thoughtful as you.

This is an example of a personalized message that you could write or text to someone who did something kind for you. 

5. Even though I plan to send notes out later, I would like to thank all of you for offering your support during my husband’s long battle with cancer. You are the best coworkers that anyone could imagine, and I appreciate everything you have done for me.

Don’t forget to express appreciation for your coworkers and boss if they supported you during the death of a family member. Chances are, they helped you more than you will ever know.

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How to Tell Someone You Appreciate Their Time or Talents

You probably aren’t good at everything. Or maybe you are talented, but you don’t have time to do all that you wish to complete. Did you recently have to turn to someone for help? Here’s how to express appreciation to that individual.

6. What would I do without you? I appreciate all the extra work you completed for the recent fundraiser. The decorations were lovely, and the programs were perfect. I am sure there are countless other things that you did to make things run smoothly. Thank you so much.

Are you the head of a committee? Make sure those working with you understand how much you appreciate their help. Those who feel appreciated may be more likely to volunteer again the next time you need help.

7. I appreciate friends like you. Thank you for driving both legs of the carpool for the last month so I could spend more time with my mom when she was going through chemo.

Sometimes we forget to express appreciation for the little things, but those little things mean so much when you are in crisis mode.

8. Thank you so much for your help with writing my dad’s obituary. You were able to perfectly express how special my dad was to everyone who knew him.

People remember to thank others for bringing meals or for sending flowers. Don’t forget to express appreciation to the people who utilized their talents when you needed help. 

9. Thank you for singing at Judy’s funeral. I know that Judy was looking down and smiling as you sang her favorite hymn so beautifully. 

Did someone sing at your family member’s funeral? Did someone else run the AV equipment, and still another person give the eulogy? Remember to express your appreciation to all those individuals for their time and talents.

10. We know that your time is precious. That’s why we would like to thank you for judging this weekend’s debate tournament. The students appreciated your insightful comments on your ballots. 

There could be a wide variety of reasons that you need to express appreciation to someone. Any time a person volunteers for a school function, you need to say thanks.

How to Tell Someone You Appreciate Their Presence 

Do you have a friend who seems to know when her presence is needed? Perhaps she shows up on your doorstep with a bottle of wine and a shoulder to cry on? Tell your friend or family member how much you appreciate them being there when you need someone’s support. 

11. I was genuinely touched that you took the time to attend my mom’s funeral. Your support means the world to me. Thank you!

Make sure you thank people who attend the funeral of a family member. No one enjoys going to funerals, so they should be commended for taking the time to offer you support.

12. I know things have been stressful lately. Thank you for taking on more of the household responsibilities, caring for our kids, and offering me endless love and support while I sat with Mom. I love and appreciate you so much.

We send thank-you notes to bosses, coworkers, friends, and extended family members. We sometimes don’t show appreciation to those closest to us. Don’t forget to thank your husband or wife.

13. How could you tell that I needed you to come over the other night? Thank you for showing up with ice cream and listening to me as I processed my latest relationship drama. You are such a great friend.

A good friend just shows up without asking. Take good care of those people in your life. They are worth their weight in gold.

14. During the last month, I have had dozens of people reach out during my time of need. Even though I appreciate those sentiments, I am touched that you came over the night that mom died. 

Be the friend who shows up with a meal when you know one is needed. Thoughts and prayers can go a long way, but being there means so much more in someone’s time of need. 

15. I know you understand the pain of losing someone you love. Thank you for coming to my brother’s funeral. 

Some people have a difficult time attending funerals. One of the main concerns people have is knowing what to say. That’s why so many people turn to the phrase, “I’m sorry for your loss.” Be gracious to those people, and thank them for being present at the funeral.

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‘I Appreciate You’ Quotes to Share

When you have difficulty coming up with the right words to express how you feel, you might consider borrowing quotes from another person. Here are some published quotes that express appreciation.

16. “God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today. Have you used one to say ‘thank you’?” by William Arthur Ward

You can use this quote to lead into your message of appreciation. 

17. “Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it,” by William Arthur Ward

Here’s another quote by William Arthur Ward about the importance of saying “I appreciate you” to the important people in your life.

18. “If the only prayer you say in your whole life is thank you,’ that would suffice,” by Meister Eckhart

Meister Eckhart is a German theologian who died in 1328.

19. “Gratitude is the sign of noble souls,” by Aesop

Feel good about expressing appreciation for those important people around you. Doing so means you have a “noble soul.”

20. “People with trusting, quality friendships may be introverts, enthusiastic, dull, extroverts, young, old, homely, good-looking; but the two characteristics they always have in common are openness and sincerity,” by Glenn Van Ekeren

Show appreciation for your open and sincere friend.

21. “A friend is one who walks in when others walk out,” by Walter Winchell

You may have heard this quote before, but consider using it to express appreciation for a friend who was there when you needed them.

22. “Friendship is the inexpressible comfort of feeling safe with a person, having neither to weigh thoughts nor measure words,” by George Eliot

Isn’t it nice having an open conversation without worrying that you might say the wrong thing? Appreciate those types of friends because they are few and far between.

23. “Friendship is a sheltering tree,” by Samuel Taylor Coleridge

Has your friend provided shelter from the difficulties you have faced in the world? Show appreciation to them.

24. “A true friend unbosoms freely, advises justly, assists readily, adventures boldly, takes all patiently, defends courageously, and continues a friend unchangeably,” by William Penn

If you have a friend that fits this description, make sure you tell them how amazing they are. 

25. “Many men know how to flatter, few men know how to praise,” Greek Proverb

Showing appreciation to someone isn’t the same as flattery.

‘I Appreciate You’ Messages for a Friend

Did you recently reach out to one of your friends for help or support? Tell them how much you appreciate them by sharing one of these quotes. 

26. “The greatest sweetener of human life is Friendship,” by Joseph Addison

Don’t forget to tell your friends how much you value them. 

27. “A friend might well be reckoned the masterpiece of nature,” by Ralph Waldo Emerson

Who wouldn’t want to be called the “masterpiece of nature”? 

28. “The glory of friendship is not the outstretched hand, nor the kindly smile, nor the joy of companionship; it is the spiritual inspiration that comes to one when he discovers that someone else believes in him and is willing to trust him,” by Ralph Waldo Emerson

Henry David Thoreau was one of Emerson’s best friends.

29. “Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joy, and dividing our grief,” by Joseph Addison

Don’t hesitate to tell your friend you need them during your time of grief. Your friend probably wants to help but doesn’t know what to do.

30. “A friend is someone who knows all about you and loves you just the same,” by Elbert Hubbard

Are you always easy to be around? Your true friends will stick with you even if you’re not at your best.

31. “It is not the talking that counts between friends, it is the never needing to say what counts,” by Shawn Green

Can you communicate with your friend without saying anything? Good friends may only need to share a look to know what the other person is thinking.

32. “Old friends are best. King James used to call for his old shoes; they were the easiest for his feet,” by John Selden

Share this quote with a favorite friend who wouldn’t take offense at being called an “old shoe.”

33. “A friend is a person who likes you for what you are, in spite of all your faults, all your shortcomings,” by Alfred Armand Montapert

Do you appreciate a friend who loves you even though you have many faults? 

34. “Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down,” by Oprah Winfrey

Celebrate those friends who stick with you during the rough times of life. 

35. “A true friend is someone who is there for you when he’d rather be anywhere else,” by Len Wein

Do you need to show appreciation to a friend who was there for you during a difficult time? Consider using this quote.

36. “A faithful friend is the medicine of life,” Ecclesiastes 6:16

Share this with a friend who is there for you when you are not at your best.

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‘I Appreciate You’ Messages for a Partner or Spouse

When dolling out “thank yous” and messages of appreciation, it’s often easy to overlook those living in your household. Yet, more than likely, these are the people who help you the most when times get tough. 

Here are some messages about the love and appreciation between partners and spouses. 

37. “Where there is great love there are miracles,” Willa Cather

Willa Cather is a renowned American author who wrote My Antonia and O Pioneers!

38. “Love is the master key which opens the gates of happiness,” by Oliver Wendell Holmes

Oliver Wendell Holmes was an Associate Justice of the U.S. Supreme Court who Theodore Roosevelt nominated.

39. “Love...binds everything together in perfect harmony,” Colossians 3:14

This doesn’t mean that you and your partner will always have a harmonious relationship. It shows that love will bind you together during difficult times.

40. “In the coldest February, as in every other month in every other year, the best thing to hold on to in this world is each other,” by Linda Ellerbee

Hold on to the one you love during the cold times of your life.

41. “One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love,” by Sophocles

Did your spouse or partner recently help you through a difficult time? Here’s a quote to express appreciation.

42. “Love sought is good, but given unsought is better,” by William Shakespeare

Hopefully, your spouse or partner knows when you need a tender touch or a show of support.

43. “Choose to be a love-finder rather than a faultfinder,” by Gerald Jampolsky

It’s easy to find fault in others. Tell your spouse or partner that you are thankful that they overlook your flaws. 

44. “Love keeps the cold out better than a cloak,” by Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

Henry Wadsworth Longfellow was an American poet known for many poems, including “Paul Revere’s Ride.”

45. “True love comes quietly, without banners or flashing lights. If you hear bells, get your ears checked,” by Erich Segal

Erich Segal is the author of Love Story.

46. “Do not seek perfection in a changing world. Instead, perfect your love,” by Master Sengstan

Appreciate those who don’t expect perfection from you.

47. “Love is how you stay alive, even after you are gone,” by Morrie Schwartz

Morrie Schwartz was the subject of the book Tuesdays With Morrie by Mitch Albom.

When Words Are Difficult 

Are you the type of person who thinks of the perfect thing to say days after an event? Do you get stressed when writing a condolence email or another expression of sympathy? Everyone feels tongue-tied or faces writer’s block at times. This is especially common if you are communicating with someone who has just experienced a crisis or tragedy.

Be kind to yourself. We have all experienced moments when words are difficult to find. 

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