There may be some instances when the phrase “it could be worse” could be appropriate. But if you are talking to someone who has recently experienced the loss of a loved one or another life-changing tragedy, perhaps it might not be. “It could be worse” in fact may not even apply to a situation where someone has experienced their imagined “worst.” Which in that case, you should find something else to say.
Jump ahead to these sections:
- Is It OK to Say ‘It Could Be Worse’?
- ‘It Could Be Worse’ Alternatives to Say When Someone’s Sick
- ‘It Could Be Worse’ Alternatives to Say When Someone Experiences a Death or Tragic Loss
- ‘It Could Be Worse’ Alternatives to Say When Someone’s Going Through Another Type of Difficult Time
If you’re looking to find something new to say, here are some suggestions on what to say to reassure someone or to offer sympathy besides using the phrase “it could be worse.”
Is It OK to Say ‘It Could Be Worse’?
The phrase “it could be worse” doesn’t have to be stricken from your vocabulary. In fact, it can be a friendly and somewhat casual way to remind someone to keep problems in their proper perspective.
For example, if the mom of a toddler laments that her child colored all over the wall with a crayon, you can remind her that it could have been worse if the tot had used a permanent marker.
If a friend’s flight is delayed, you could remind them that their travel could have been canceled, which would have been “worse.”
While there are appropriate times to say “it could be worse,” it is suggested that you resolve not to say it in cases where it may be truly insensitive. For someone who lost a loved one, received a bad diagnosis, or suffered another type of life-changing tragedy, that kind of saying may not offer the type of support you are trying to give.
‘It Could Be Worse’ Alternatives to Say When Someone’s Sick
We know that your husband suffering from a stuffy nose has little to complain about, but saying “it could be worse” to him does little to show that you care. Here are some kind things to say to someone who is sick, whether they have a cold or a life-altering disease.
1. “I’m sorry you aren’t feeling well.”
Are you searching for a kind thing to say to someone who is under the weather? Or perhaps your friend’s condition is more serious, and they feel the effects of chemotherapy treatment or are recovering from surgery. Regardless of the situation, saying, “I’m sorry you aren’t feeling well” is an appropriate way to show that you care.
2. “I’m glad you have a strong support system.”
You may feel it is necessary to remind your friend to look on the bright side of life. Instead of saying that things could be worse, try to point out something positive. You may also say, “I’m glad you are feeling a little better today.”
3. “I hope you feel better soon!”
You don’t need to remind your friend that things could be worse when they are sick. In fact, doing so may cause your friend to imagine all that could go wrong. Instead, a cheery, “Feel better!” may reassure your friend that recovery is possible.
4. “You’ve got this!”
This expression reminds your friend that they have the strength and stamina to overcome what ails her.
5. “One day at a time!”
When life gets overwhelming, it is helpful to remember that all we need to do is face one problem at a time. This is a good reminder for anyone who is sick or troubled.
6. “I’m praying for you.”
If you and your friend share a spiritual connection, bolster their strength by praying for them. This can be a more positive way to say that you care instead of telling them that things “could be worse.”
‘It Could Be Worse’ Alternatives to Say When Someone Experiences a Death or Tragic Loss
A person who recently lost a mother does not need to be told how lucky they are that their father didn’t die too. Also, a person who loses a loved one in a car accident does not need to be told how fortunate it was that no one else received any injuries.
Saying “it could be worse” to someone who has lost someone is never OK. Here are some more appropriate phrases.
7. “I’m sorry for your loss.”
It doesn’t matter if the person who died had an extended illness or died from an accident, do not say “it could be worse” when someone dies. Instead, say something similar to “I’m sorry for your loss.”
8. “I know you must be hurting. I am so sorry.”
You don’t need to look on the bright side of everything. Sometimes it is appropriate to be sad. Don’t feel like you need to spin the situation to make it seem better than it is. Simply being there can be of help.
9. “I’m glad your family is embracing you with love during this difficult time.”
If you have to find something positive to say after someone dies, you may consider commenting about the abundance of support the person has. Of course, only say this if it is true.
10. “Please accept my condolences on the loss of your mom.”
We know this phrase sounds formal, but you may consider writing this on a card or in a condolence email to an employee. Death calls for a more formal way of speaking and acting.
11. “Can I bring you a meal tomorrow night?”
Perhaps your friend is not able or ready to talk about the death of a loved one. While you don’t want to avoid the topic by talking about the weather, you may instead offer help. Consider providing a meal or offering to help transport plants and flowers home from the funeral.
12. “I don’t know what to say.”
Sometimes it is better to admit that you don’t know what to say than to say something offensive or insensitive. Your friend may always remember what you said during this time, and it may affect your friendship. If you don’t trust yourself with words, consider just hugging your friend.
‘It Could Be Worse’ Alternatives to Say When Someone’s Going Through Another Type of Difficult Time
Life is often full of turmoil, and there’s a chance that several of your loved ones may be going through difficult times right now. While some of their “tragedies” may seem less than tragic to you, it is polite to offer your sympathy.
Here are some phrases to use when your loved one is struggling.
13. “I’m ready to listen.”
We all want to be heard. We want people to listen to us without judgment or without offering advice. If a friend or family member is struggling, stop and listen. There’s no need to add a qualifier to what they are feeling.
14. “This will all be a bad memory someday.”
Be careful when offering this bit of advice to a friend. The comment should never be attached to the death or a loved one or a life-changing tragedy. You may say something similar to this if a friend had a tree fall on her house, or if someone broke a bone after experiencing a fall.
15. “It will be OK.”
You may also want to be careful when sharing this statement with a friend. If he or she recently had a cancer diagnosis or went through a divorce, you don’t know that things will be OK for your friend but there may be a moment where things may feel a bit more manageable.
16. “I’m here for you.”
Some friends simply say, “I’m here for you,” and others really mean it. If you offer your support, you may consider following it up with a statement of what you are willing to do to help the situation.
17. “You’re not alone.”
If your friend recently lost a spouse or went through a divorce, they may be feeling alone. Your friend may struggle to make decisions independently and dread going home to a silent house. Remind your friend that they are not alone, as you and others are there to offer support and to provide comfort.
18. “I know you feel overwhelmed right now.”
You may feel that this phrase needs to have a follow-up statement, but sometimes you may not need to provide one. Your friend may simply need reassurance that what they are feeling is appropriate. Giving reassurance is one way to help a grieving friend.
When Have You Welcomed Advice?
Think back to a time in your life when someone offered you good advice. How did you indicate that you were seeking feedback instead of reassurance? Maybe you asked, “What will I do?” Perhaps you could look for these same clues from your friend before sharing your opinion on how to get through the tragedy. If you’re still unsure how to offer some kind words, look to some healing quotes to help get your message of help and sympathy to your loved one.
We all need people to help us navigate through the rough waters in life. Show your friend that you can be that person by speaking kindly to them while they are suffering.