Visiting the Redwood groves of Northern California is truly a magical experience. The woods are eerily quiet, as most of the visitors simply walk around with their eyes pointed to the top of the mammoth trees. It’s mind-blowing to think some Redwoods may have been alive when Jesus walked the Earth. Some of these fantastic trees have been around since before the invention of paper.
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- Outdoor Memory Tree Ideas
- Indoor Memory Tree Ideas
- Holiday Memory Tree Ideas
- Funeral or Memorial Service Memory Tree Ideas
Even the trees in your area could be 50 or 100 years old. Your grandparents may have been able to picnic under the same tree that you see on your walks through a local park.
Their longevity is part of the magic of trees. Perhaps that’s why tree imagery is often used in genealogy. Just as trees live on for decades, families stretch from generation to generation. Maybe that’s why people are drawn to trees, especially those that live for centuries, when thinking about the brevity of life.
Let’s discuss the concept of a memory tree. We’ll give you ideas on both outdoor and indoor memory trees. We will also give you ideas for holiday memory trees and ways that trees can be used at a memorial service.
Outdoor Memory Tree Ideas
How would you like to commemorate the life of someone you loved? Some people start scholarship funds in the names of their loved ones while others donate items to a local animal shelter in their loved one’s name. Still, others plant trees.
Here are some ideas on how to celebrate the life of a person you loved by planting a tree.
1. Add your loved one’s cremains to the base of a newly-planted tree
Some families struggle to know what to do with the cremains of their loved ones. While some are happy to scatter the remains at sea, others want to have a specific place to visit to think about the deceased.
Placing your loved one’s cremains in the hole of a newly-planted tree would give you such a place to visit. If the tree is located on your property or in your backyard, you may want to add a plaque at the base of the tree with your loved one’s name or image. Add bird feeders and windchimes to make it a special place to visit.
2. Donate a tree to a local church, school, or park
If your loved one or your family had special ties to a particular church, school, or park, you might consider collecting memorial funds to purchase a tree to plant in that location.
You may ask the non-profit organization if you can add a bench under the tree, engraved with your loved one’s name.
3. Purchase a memorial tree or bush for a grieving family
While it is commonplace for people to purchase flowers for a funeral, those blooms never last. Instead, you may look for local or online businesses that will deliver a tree or hardy bush to the grieving family.
Make sure you share the general location of the family, so the horticulture experts can pick a tree that is known to thrive in that particular location.
Indoor Memory Tree Ideas
In some metropolitan areas, purchasing large trees in memory of a loved one is not an option. If you like the idea of this eco-friendly way to commemorate your loved one, but you can’t plant a tree outside, here are some indoor options.
4. Buy or gift an indoor tree
Trees come in a variety of shapes and sizes, and even though an indoor ficus tree or lemon tree may not be around for centuries like a Redwood, one of these plants could remind you of your loved one for at least 15 or 20 years.
Consider buying an indoor tree and placing a plant stake in its base that would remind you of the one you lost.
5. Display your family tree
Perhaps your indoor “memorial tree” is not really a tree. Instead, you could create an indoor display of your family tree.
There are lots of examples of such displays on Pinterest and other DIY websites. Not only will your loved one’s name be displayed, but other family members and ancestors will as well.
6. Purchase a living urn
For those who want to keep their loved one’s cremains, but don’t want to have them on display in an urn on the mantle, you may consider purchasing a living urn. A living urn is a large pot that you can use to store the cremains as well as plant a small indoor tree.
One company that specializes in living urns allows you to purchase one with a bonsai tree.
Holiday Memory Tree Ideas
The holidays are particularly difficult for those who recently lost a loved one. Instead of powering through the holidays, why don’t you create a holiday memory tree for the loved ones you lost?
7. Give memorial holiday ornaments to friends and family members
As you create your gift list this year, you may think about purchasing or making memorial ornaments that commemorate the life of the one you lost.
Some people choose ornaments in the shape of cardinals or hearts, while others choose angels or crosses. You may decide to put your loved one’s image on the ornament, or merely the deceased’s name and the words “In Loving Memory.”
8. Create a paper chain with the names of those you love
Remember all your living and deceased family and friends by creating a paper chain each year at Christmas.
Cut decorative paper into rectangles, and on each one, write the name of a person you love. Connect the rectangles with tape or glue, and wrap your Christmas tree with the paper chain.
9. Decorate a tree with your loved one’s favorite items
To give yourself peace during the holiday season, you may consider decorating a separate holiday tree in memory of your loved one.
You may place items on and around the tree that belonged to your loved one or that simply remind you of him or her. Perhaps your wife’s favorite scarf could go around the trunk, or your son’s favorite football team can be represented on an ornament.
Funeral or Memorial Service Memory Tree Ideas
Funerals and memorial services are much more creative than they used to be. Before you plan one for your family member, research memorial service ideas to find unique ways to celebrate the one you love. Here are some ideas on how to utilize memory trees in the service, visitation, or reception.
10. Create a memorial tree guest book
Instead of having a traditional guest book at your loved one’s funeral, you may consider having a memorial tree guest book instead.
These guest books are simple branches that are placed somewhere near the entrance of the service location. The guests are instructed to write their names on small ornaments, or maybe even share a written memory of your loved one. The ornaments are placed on the tree, and the survivors can take it home to display.
11. Create a photo display on a memorial tree
We are sure that you have been to funerals and have seen a memory board with photos. Instead of placing the pictures on a simple poster board, why not create small photo “ornaments” made from old photos to hang from a cluster of branches?
Such a display is more attractive than the traditional boards. Don’t forget to use current images as well. Check your Facebook or Instagram accounts to find photos to print.
12. Distribute small trees for mourners to plant
Although large trees are expensive to buy, tiny seedlings are inexpensive. Consider giving a seedling to each person who comes to the memorial service.
Instruct each person to plant the tree and think about your loved one every time they see it. Some companies specialize in preparing this small gift.
Finding the Perfect Tree
None of us will be alive in 150 years, but the tree outside your window may be. As you think about the generations that will follow yours, you may dream about how you want to be remembered.
Do you want your great-grandchildren to find your headstone in a nearby cemetery? Or do you want them to have a picnic under a giant oak tree that was planted in your name?