It can feel impossible to find the right words for a dad who has had a miscarriage. How can you properly express your sympathy in a compassionate, helpful way?
Jump ahead to these sections:
- DIY or Personalized Miscarriage Gifts for a Dad
- Other Loss of Baby Gifts for a Dad
- Father’s Day Gifts to Honor a Baby Who Died
The truth is, there’s nothing you can do to take the pain away, but sending your condolences for miscarriage with a message or gifts will help him because it’ll show you’re available.
Dads are often not consoled the same way mothers are. Whether subconsciously or not, dads are expected to be tough and be a rock. Just like the mother, the dad has also lost a child and will also find comfort with kind words and support during this time. Here are some miscarriage gifts for a dad.
DIY or Personalized Miscarriage Gifts for a Dad
Gifting your loved one something for this time should come from the heart and can be personalized to make it extra special. Some things can be made with household supplies or you may want to personalize a gift.
1. Care package
A miscarriage care package can be made with items that both comfort the parents and commemorate the child they lost.
Grief is an overwhelming feeling and often forces daily activity to the side. The dad will probably spend a lot of time processing this event and might not put effort into eating. A great way to take care of your loved one during this time is to give him meals.
Pro tip: It’s important to give parents space during this time, so dropping off premade meals or sending ordered dinners to their house is ideal.
3. DIY card
The right words can be hard to find, but the time you put into crafting a message with a handmade card will convey your love and support.
4. Personalized key chain
Your loved one might not wear jewelry, but chances are, he always has his keys on hand. A keychain to remember the lost child is a small, perfect gift.
Pro tip: Online Etsy shops and Amazon have personalized leather and metal keychain options.
Your friend or loved one may require space, a shoulder to cry on, or help with daily chores. Purchase some colored paper and create handmade “coupons” that offer yourself for babysitting, meal preparation, cleaning, and other duties he’ll be forced to deal with during this time.
6. Plant a tree
One beautiful way to remember a lost child is by planting a tree. This tree will live on and can serve as a beautiful representation of the deceased child.
Pro tip: There are many trees to choose from, but an oak tree represents strength and longevity.
Pick up some supplies and dedicate some time to creating a painting or sculpture if you’re artsy. Find a quote or think of a symbol for the deceased child and create a beautiful masterpiece.
Pro tip: Look for inspiration online by artists who have done this in the past.
8. Remembrance box
Before the miscarriage, parents doted over sonogram photos and gathered clothes and items for the newborn.
Losing this baby will leave parents with items they are unsure of what to do with. Create a box for these items to help these grieving parents move forward through this process.
Pro tip: Find a decent-sized wooden box with a key and add some decor.
Other Loss of Baby Gifts for a Dad
Try your best to worry about creating or finding the perfect gift. Any gift, whether it be DIY, purchased, handmade, small, or large will serve the purpose of helping your loved one during this time.
Experiencing a miscarriage is a devastating and traumatic event many people have written about.
There are books about losing a child that detail how to heal and grieve and other books contain stories from people who also went through a miscarriage. These books can help the dad find strength and comfort through others who have gotten through it.
A candle is a beautiful way to celebrate a child’s memory.
Pro tip: Create or purchase a personalized label with the deceased child’s name on it.
11. Garden stone
There are a few different ways you can create a dedication to the child outdoors and one is with a stone for the garden with the child's name painted or printed on it.
Dads probably don’t wear much jewelry but there are some options they might like that can help your loved one remember his lost child. An engraved dog tag necklace or bracelet is subtle and beautiful.
After this profound loss, the child’s dad might spend more time in bed or laying on the couch.
Windchimes are beautiful additions to outdoor areas. Each time the wind hits it and chimes, Dad can feel comfort that his unborn child is safe in heaven.
Flowers are a popular gift when a loved one experiences loss. Send flowers to brighten up your friend or loved one’s home or bring flowers to the child’s resting place if there is one.
Father’s Day Gifts to Honor a Baby Who Died
Father’s Day is a hard day for parents with children in heaven. It’s difficult to know what to say to someone who has lost a baby, but any way to commemorate a dad’s role will be meaningful.
Writing and drawing can be helpful when moving through the grieving process. Provide a blank journal and encourage your friend or loved one to write down his feelings.
A print to hang in the dad’s home is an easy gift that can be created or purchased online.
Stores and online shops offer specially-made prints for this situation with sketches of fathers holding angel babies or a beautifully lettered quote dedicated to this loss.
17. Date night
A miscarriage is sure to throw a wrench in even the best relationships. It might take some time for the parents to be ready to go out and live normal again, but a gift card for a date night is thoughtful.
18. Sonogram frame
Like a remembrance box, a frame gives a place for that sonogram photo and can be kept out and viewed instead of in a box.
19. Spa products
The years will go on without their child, and one way to commemorate the child is with a figurine of an angel or another symbol that can be left out every day of the year.
Pro tip: During the holidays, you can find additional options like Christmas tree ornaments.
A letter might take some time to write, but it can serve as a great way to provide your support and remind your loved one that he will get through this time.
Pro tip: Use durable paper and spend plenty of time on this so it can be referred to on tough days when your friend or loved one needs the inspiration to keep going.
Helping With Dad’s Grief
Miscarriage is unfathomable until it’s experienced first hand. The loss of a child is something no parent should have to go through, and oftentimes, both parents aren't given enough support and love.