Physically recovering from a miscarriage takes time. Not only that, often, it also makes a debilitating and anguishing toll on one's mental health. That's why it's essential to create something beautiful for your child, which will eventually help you be present with thoughts of them in a meaningful way. Through the process of creating this memorial, perhaps you'll be able to manifest your feelings toward something tangible. Or, at the very least, be able to sit with them in thought.
Jump ahead to these sections:
- Miscarriage Memorial Ideas to Have in Your Home
- Miscarriage Memorial Ideas for Outdoors
- Miscarriage Memorial Ideas for a Memorial Service
Below, you'll discover some ways to help your spirits inside and outside your home, or at the funeral service. The ideas are intended to honor your child, but also your grief as you find a path to a fitting memorial tribute for your little one.
Miscarriage Memorial Ideas to Have in Your Home
Are you looking for a memorial to hang in your window, on your wall, or sit atop a mantle? If so, we’ve listed some beautiful ideas from online artists and retailers to commission or customize your project. Check out these options for art, music, and sculpture.
1. Stained glass
Stained glass adorning a morning window makes for a beautiful greeting to any day. And commissioning one is easier than you think. Just run a quick search online for a local artist and give them a call. You’ll collaborate on designs to create a unique reminder of your little one.
2. Keepsake music box or musical water globe
Are you looking for a special box for the baby keepsakes you bought? We discovered several online music box retailers that offer personalization. Some may even provide the option of song choice.
Alternatively, if you’re trying to find a sweet gift for your partner, consider a customizable water globe to honor your child.
3. Moon with sleeping baby
Sculptures of a moon and sleeping baby come in a variety of mediums. Some are designed to sit upon a mantle, hang in a window, or adorn holiday trees
With that, online marketplaces showcase artists who offer handcrafted and custom pieces in silver, porcelain, or wood. Those artists might even be able to help you design something one-off.
4. Angel sculpture
If you’re searching for an angel sculpture on the internet, you’ll discover that the options are seemingly endless. Just typing in the words “angel sculpture” will give you too many pages to count — there are options for angel candle holders, crystal angels, and more. So, consider scrolling through some images to get an idea, first. Then filter the search by the material, brand, or type to narrow the prospects.
Consider where the sculpture will be displayed for the right size and fit.
5. Framed silhouette or watercolor of a sonogram
Did you keep the sonogram from the visit to the doctor? If so, some artists will create custom art with your baby’s image. From watercolor to woodburning, mugs to keychains, there are many options from which to choose.
Also, if you have an idea for further customization, ask. The artist will let you know what their capabilities and constraints are.
6. Mother animal with young
Personifying how you imagined your relationship with the little one could be depicted using art or portraiture of mothers with their young out in nature. Sometimes the art can bring calm to a particularly tough day or help you to cope with miscarriage.
Consider having a date or line of a poem added to the matting or plaque on the frame.
Miscarriage Memorial Ideas for Outdoors
In the selection below, we’ve come up with options for types of living memorials you could create for your little one. Each idea builds off the next, so you can begin your project with one option and then start to include some of the others.
7. Garden sculpture of Jizō Bodhisattva (地蔵菩薩)
Jizō (Kṣitigarbha) is one of the four primary Bodhisattvas in East Asian Mahayana Buddhism, and he is the protector of deceased children. The statues of Jizō are affectionately known as "O-Jizō-san" throughout Japanese culture. Often, people pray or make wishes to his likeness.
Check out an online marketplace of small artists to find one perfect for your garden.
8. Butterfly garden
To attract butterflies, you'll need to create a garden with some plant diversity. Mixtures of plants offer varying heights and blooming times.
These considerations will provide shelter from the sun as well as constant food sources for caterpillars and butterflies. Last but not least, you'll want to make sure to provide a water resource as well (see birdbath below).
9. Custom memorial stone
Do you have a garden where you spend much of your summer days? If so, consider a custom memorial stone that you’ll notice immediately. No matter the resource you choose for your design (funeral home, stone company, or online artist), you can create a fitting tribute to your little one.
If you haven’t planted a garden yet, then consider a wildflower garden (see below).
10. Custom wind chime
Wind chimes are more than just aesthetic, and they've been around for hundreds of years. For example, in Chinese feng shui, wind chimes have a purpose of connecting people to their moment in time to achieve better health and happiness. Not only that, but chimes have also been used to attract peaceful spirits or offer protection.
If you're working with an artist online to help you create something custom, consider doing a FaceTime call so you can hear the chime before you purchase.
Birds symbolize many things around the world—from peace to hope, wisdom, loyalty, and even a mother-child relationship. As such, you may want to consider bringing in a birdbath to your backyard. Offer the birds a chance to bathe and a place to rest, and also give your mind a chance to quiet itself.
12. Wildflower garden
Do you know which wildflowers grow well in your area? If not, then head to the local nursery to get help and order your seeds or plants. When the garden is finished, you should be able to see blooms from spring to summer.
When it’s finished, you can place a bench in the middle of your garden to sit with your thoughts inside the beautiful setting you created.
13. Water feature
Although this is the most significant task mentioned here, putting in a water feature—like a koi pond—can bring long-lasting joy. Some choose to have this professionally done, while others prefer to do the work themselves or with family and friends to help.
This doesn’t have to be a weekend project. Taking the time to choose and place your plants can be therapeutic if done over a few weekends during the summer.
Do you live in a neighborhood with lots of songbirds? Or, would you like to attract them? If you’re not familiar with what types of birdhouses and birdseed work best, you'll be sure to find a local birding community on social media that can help you out.
Once you’ve got your family of birds settled in, you can sit outside and watch them with a sense of calm.
Make sure to consider whether or not there are cats in the neighborhood and make appropriate adjustments to the feeders you put out for your birds.
Miscarriage Memorial Ideas for a Memorial Service
Listed below are a few sweet touches you can add to the funeral service of your child. They’re small, fairly easy to put together, but make for a lasting impact.
15. Custom ornaments
We've discovered some artists online who can create almost any ornament you can imagine. So, consider having a selection of them for those in attendance. Perhaps you prefer sunshine and rainbows? Maybe you'd prefer angel wings? No matter what you choose, there's an option to add a name or date to the ornament.
16. Custom birdseed packets
Do you have a poem that you've loved since you were young? If so, many online marketplace shop owners can custom print that poetry or anything else you might request on birdseed packets. You will need to supply the birdseed and assemble the packets yourself, but the time spent can also be cathartic.
17. Stamped keychains or jewelry
If you're having a small ceremony for your little one, artist-stamped keychains or jewelry might be the right option. You'll be able to choose both the metal and the font to create the perfect “in loving memory” message.
Check out the online reviews before you settle with an artist. If you find a questionable 3-star review, contact the artist and decide for yourself.
18. Tiny lanterns
Tiny lanterns scattered throughout the room would make for a beautiful memorial setting. These, too, are customizable. Just ask your funeral director to help set them up for you. If you like, at the end of the service, you can choose to send one home with your friends and family in attendance.
Sometimes the funeral home will also dust baby powder in the room for a memorial. Consider using battery-operated tea lights as opposed to actual flames.
Honoring Your Child
Little by little, memorials will help you through the darkest days. Plus, when the air seems to come back to your lungs again, you’ll have built reminders throughout your life, home, or yard where you can stop to think of your child—maybe even spend time with them in your thoughts.
- Keyes, Hillary (translator). (2016). Japanese Encyclopedia: Jizō ("Protector of Children and Travelers"): MATCHA - JAPAN TRAVEL WEB MAGAZINE. from https://matcha-jp.com/en/1578