Missing someone during the holidays can be challenging. You may feel isolated by the Christmas cheer and celebration around you. It can sometimes feel like you’re the only one not with the person you love. It may be because of distance, or because of death.
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- Best "Missing You at Christmas" Quotes
- Best "Missing You at Christmas" Songs
- Best "Missing You at Christmas" Poems
Regardless of whether it’s the first year you’re celebrating alone, or the twentieth, it can be tough. But you aren’t alone. Many people are missing someone this holiday season.
You may be comforted by a physical reminder of them, like a cremation diamond, their favorite sweater, or a photo. There are also dozens of poems and songs to help you during this time. Here are some of the best ones.
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Best "Missing You at Christmas" Quotes
1."In true love, the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged." -Hans Nouwen, Writer
Love has the power to make any distance seem small. Whether the person you miss lives down the block or across the country, sometimes they’re still too far away.
2. "Life is so short, so fast the lone hours fly, we ought to be together, you and I." -Henry Alford, Journalist
You want to make the most of the time you have on earth. What better way to spend it than with the ones you love?
3. "When we miss someone, often, what we really miss is the part of us that with this someone awakens." -Luigina Sgarro, Writer
When you’re with that special someone, you feel like a better person. Often, you miss being with that person. And you miss the person you are when they are around.
4. "Sometimes, when one person is missing, the whole world seems depopulated." -Lamartine, Poet and Politician
Your house might be full of people on Christmas. From good friends to extended family, you might not have a spare room! But if one special person is missing, you can still feel all alone.
5."Missing someone enlightens how the person means to you and broadens the feelings shared." -Unarine Ramaru
People say that absence makes the heart grow fonder. Relationships can be complicated and it might be hard to know how you feel about someone. Absence might bring some clarity to the situation.
6. "It’s hard when you miss people. But you know if you miss them, that means you’re lucky. It means you had someone special in your life, someone worth missing." -Nikki Schiefelbein, Actress
Some people don’t miss anyone. They may feel lonely, but there are no specific people they miss. If you miss someone, you have a gift. It means that someone came into your life and changed it forever.
7. "I miss you deeply, unfathomably, senselessly, terribly." -Franz Kafka, Author
This is a short sentence to include on a ‘missing you this Christmas!’ card or Instagram caption. You may be sure that someone already knows what they mean to you. But it’s always good to remind them.
8. "Love is missing someone whenever you’re apart, but somehow feeling warm inside because you’re close in heart." -Kay Knudsen, Writer
Missing someone is a special privilege. You know someone well enough to remember that you’re better together. Even if you aren’t together, you can be close in heart.
9. "No matter where you go, you will always be in my heart." -Anthony T. Hincks, Author
Some people are globetrotters. They travel far and wide, and you rarely see them. But no matter how far away they are, you never forget them.
10."The scary thing about distance is you don't know whether they'll miss you or forget you." -Nicholas Sparks, Author
Sometimes, you might not feel good about missing someone. The saying ‘absence makes the heart grow fonder’ might apply to you. If someone truly loves you, they’ll miss you no matter the distance.
Best "Missing You at Christmas" Songs
Many Christmas songs are classics sung by Dean Martin and Bing Crosby. These songs include contributions from Mariah Carey to the Eagles. If the person you miss is far away, you can add some of these songs to a Christmas playlist and share it along with a Spotify gift card as a special present.
11. "It’s Gonna Be A Cold, Cold Christmas" by Dana Rosemary Scallon
The song’s narrator has a realization: it won’t be a white Christmas. In fact, the weather forecast predicts sunshine and no snow. But it doesn’t seem to matter. There will be no warmth for them on Christmas without their special someone.
All the narrator can think about is the summertime, when they were last together.
12. "Santa Bring My Baby Back" by Elvis Presley
This song has been covered many times by modern artists. But Elvis’ version is a Christmastime classic. In the song, he sings about Santa bringing presents. But presents are no good if he doesn’t get the one thing he wants.
He would take his sweetheart over every present Santa could bring. To the narrator, Christmas doesn’t mean anything without his sweetheart there.
13. "All I Want for Christmas" by Mariah Carey
Many Christmas songs share the same theme—who needs presents if one special person isn’t there with you? Carey’s take is whimsical, with a childhood focus on wishes coming true. She realizes that she doesn’t want anything for Christmas, but she does need one thing. Even if there’s nothing under the Christmas tree that’s okay, she only wants the person she loves with her.
14. "Blue Christmas” by Elvis Presley
White or green Christmases are common, depending on what part of the country you come from. Elvis is experiencing a different type of Christmas altogether. The woman he loves is doing fine and having a white Christmas without him. So even with all the cheer around him, he still feels "blue."
15. "Miss You Most (At Christmas Time)" by Mariah Carey
If you feel isolated by all the love and goodwill during the holiday season, you’re not alone. It can feel like everyone is happy except you. Carey sings about what that’s like to feel so alone. She’s lonely on normal days, but Christmas is worse.
16. "I’ll Be Missin’ You Come Christmas” by New Kids on the Block
This sad ‘80s track from their Merry, Merry Christmas album may reflect just how you feel. In the lyrics, the song’s narrator is writing a letter to Santa Claus. It’s a Christmas tradition for kids to write a letter full of their Christmas wishes.
The narrator is sure that once Santa reads his letter, Santa will agree to grant his wish. Of course, the narrator’s wish is for one thing—his loved one to be with him on Christmas Day.
17. "Lonely This Christmas” by Elvis Presley
At first, this song’s lyrics sound happy. The narrator promises he’ll visit for Christmas. He even asks that holiday preparations be made for him. From presents to mistletoe, he’ll be there for all of it.
Near the close of the song, the narrator says that he’ll only be home for Christmas in his dreams. If you’re the one who can’t go home this Christmas, Elvis’ lament might be the perfect song.
18. "Bells Will Be Ringing" Kelly Clarkson
The song’s narrator is struggling to be happy that it’s Christmas. The holiday season holds no meaning for her. Even though her friends and relatives are around, it doesn’t matter.
She wants to be with the person she loves. Everyone else is with their loved one. She wants her sweetheart to promise that he’ll stop traveling during the holidays. Instead, she wants him to be with her so they can celebrate the holidays together.
19. "Please Come Home for Christmas" by Eagles
Many artists have covered this song. This is the 1978 version, and it sounds a lot like Kelly Clarkson’s version! Even though the titles and artists are different, the lyrics are similar.
But the Eagles’ version is focused on the future. They emphasize the happiness that will be theirs. All it will take is for their loved one to stop traveling during the holidays.
20. "All Alone on Christmas” by Darlene Love
The narrator wants to know where other lonely people go. She knows that she shouldn’t be alone on Christmas Day, but she is.
To cope, the narrator lives in memories. She remembers better holidays, with sleigh rides and all-night dancing. By contrast, this Christmas seems bittersweet to her.
Check out our picks for the best songs about missing someone for more.
If you would like to find Christmas songs specifically about death, look through our list as an aid to your grieving process.
Best "Missing You at Christmas" Poems
Loneliness and missing someone has sparked many great poems. Whether you’re grieving, or just missing someone, these poems can help.
21. "Wartime Christmas" by Joyce Kilmer
This poem is set during a war. Many of the narrator’s loved ones are either dead or on the battlefield. With the world in the grips of conflict, it’s hard to find anything to celebrate.
Rather than bright Christmas cheer, the world seems dull and tired. However, Kilmer ends by focusing on the future. The sun still shines through the clouds.
22. "Your Luck is About to Change” by Susan Elizabeth Howe
This poem takes the approach of a fortune cookie. Howe writes as if a fortune cookie is predicting how the holiday season will transition into the new year. It forces her to think about all the things that could go wrong.
Her husband could get drafted, or her physical pain could increase. But she chooses not to focus on those things. In the poem, she insists on hope. If you’re alone this holiday season, hope can keep you going.
23. "The Sound of One Fork” by Minnie Bruce Pratt
When the poem begins, Pratt is waiting for someone. As she waits, she realizes that her elderly neighbor is dining alone. There’s no sound except for one fork against one plate.
Pratt’s special someone never comes, and she wonders if she is lonely, too. At the end of the poem, Pratt realizes she was never lonely because she "shared" a meal with her neighbor.
24. "On Broadway” by Claude McKay
With rich imagery, McKay pictures all the chaos and beauty of Broadway. Even though he’s standing in this clamor, he’s not part of it. He can’t take part in this lively scene because he is too lonely.
25. "I Wandered Lonely As A Cloud” by William Wordsworth
This poem from the view of a cloud. Wordsworth pictures himself, drifting on a lonely breeze, above everything else. There’s no one for Wordsworth to tether himself to. But as he drifts along, he notices the beauty in the world below him.
26. "Childhood’s Retreat” by Robert Duncan
Duncan remembers what it was like to be a child and achieve solitude. In the poem, he climbs a tree to be alone. As an adult, he remembers that he wasn’t afraid of solitude as a kid. In fact, he worked to get it. This poem celebrates being alone.
27. "Sanctuary” by Jean Valentine
It’s easy to be afraid of missing someone so much. It’s painful and unpleasant. But Valentine insists that it’s all part of being human.
28. "Solitude” by Caroline Caddy
Caddy believes that solitude is a gift that sharpens the world around you and gives you clarity. She compares it to binoculars and a camera case. Even though solitude can feel uncomfortable, it can help you understand yourself.
29. "Ode on Solitude” by Alexander Pope
As a poet from an older age, Pope took a romanticized view of solitude. He pictures a world where a man quietly farms his fields and cares for his animals. And if he is alone at the end of the day, it doesn’t mean he’s lonely. Pope believes his hard work makes up for anything else.
30. "The Solitude of Night” by Li Po
Po writes about missing his friends after a wine party. When he wakes up, everyone is gone. His friends are gone, and even the birds are asleep.
Celebrating the Holidays
It can be hard to miss someone special during the holidays. Their absence can feel especially difficult during this time of year. These poems and songs can help you miss your special someone a little less this Holiday season. You might not feel like hanging stockings and decorating the tree. That’s okay. Don’t do anything just because you think you should.
If you don’t want to celebrate traditionally this year, try something else. What about volunteering at a local soup kitchen? Or going on a vacation to somewhere tropical? No matter what you choose, follow your heart. It won’t steer you wrong.
- Alcedo, Madson. “Comforting Quotes about Missing Someone You Love.” Country Living Magazine, n.d., www.countryliving.com/life/entertainment/g19827742/i-miss-you-quotes/