29 Great Questions to Get to Know Your Kids or Grandkids

Contributing writer, former long-term care admissions counselor and social worker

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Getting through to kids can be hard, especially in these days of screens and social media. Even so, you still want to get to know your kids or grandkids better. Asking questions can open their minds, show you more of their personalities and what is important to them. 

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Struggling to think up questions worth asking? We’ve compiled some fun, thought-provoking questions to ask kids at the dinner table. 

Funny or Silly Questions to Ask Kids

You will get much further with children by asking fun questions instead of the same boring discussion topics they’re used to. Appeal to them with silly questions that get everyone giggling! 

1.“If you could have one superpower, what would it be?”

Kids have the best imaginations. You might be surprised to hear what they come up with. 

2. “Would you rather have feet for hands or hands for feet? Why?” 

“Would you rather” questions get children thinking a little deeper. Talk this through with them to understand how they get to this silly answer. 

3. “If you could change the color of the sky, what would it be?” 

Have you ever thought about this? This question can simply teach you their favorite color or can show you just how much they know about the planet and why the color of the sky is blue. 

4. “Can you tell me a joke?”

Get to know kids’ senses of humor with this question. Tell them a joke in return to keep the laughs going! 

5. “If your stuffed animal could talk, what would it tell me?”

Many young children have a bear or stuffed toy of some sort within arms’ reach at all times. They may have pondered this before and have an answer ready for you! 

6. “What is the weirdest dream you have ever had?”

This question sounds fun but even has the potential to tell you things that might stress or worry them. 

7.“What’s the silliest thing you've ever done?” 

You can also answer these questions to show a side of yourself they may not know! 

8. “If you could have any animal for a pet, what would it be and what would you name it?” 

You might get a realistic answer like a dog or a very unrealistic one, like a dragon! 

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Great Questions to Ask Kids About School

Enthusiastically asking a child about school is usually met with one-word answers. Try asking open-ended questions that provoke more discussion. 

9. “What did you learn in math today?”

This is a simple question but it is straightforward and specific by asking about math in particular. Having them recall what they learned can be a great way to cement new content in their brains.

10. “What is the easiest subject for you to learn?”

Children can show a knack for a subject at an early age, which may end up being their favorite. By learning this, you can better build on their strengths and work on their weaknesses. 

11. “Who is your favorite teacher and why?” 

Teachers spend a lot of time with the child in your life, and you may wonder if they are doing all they can for your child. By asking questions about their favorite teacher, you may better understand how they best learn, enjoy, and participate in school. 

12. “What do you hope to learn in school this year?”

They may respond with something they will end up learning or something you can teach them at home. 

13. “What’s your favorite food at lunchtime?”

Lunchtime is a nice way to relax and socialize during the school day. It’s an important part of your child's day — it’s a good idea to ensure your child is actually eating the food you send! 

14. “Who are the bullies at your school?” 

There are bullies everywhere, unfortunately. Opening the conversation about bullying and how to react is crucial. Plus, you may find out if your child is being bullied. 

15. “What do you dislike most about school?” 

This is a simple but effective question to learn what your child doesn’t like about school. It can allow you to present the subject or activity in a new light. 

16. “What grade have you liked most so far and why?” 

This question is another way to better understand what helps a child succeed and can help you emulate these past experiences in the present. 

Questions to Ask Kids About Their Parents or Family

Family is one of the biggest parts of a kid's everyday life and learning more about their perception and feelings toward parents and family can teach you a lot. Ask these questions to learn about their thoughts on punishment, trust, and more. 

17. “What is your favorite family tradition?”

Whether it be nightly routines, holiday parties, or family breakfast, traditions are nice for kids to look forward to and find comfort in. 

18. “What is your favorite memory with your family?”

By learning children’s favorite memories, you can recreate it for them and learn what they like most. 

19. “What makes you feel loved?”

We all receive and offer love in different ways, children included. Finding out the ways they feel appreciated, loved and safe are crucial to building a positive relationship. 

20. “How would you like to be more like your mom/dad?”

Without asking what they like or dislike about their parents, ask this to see how they would copy their parents and what they appreciate. 

21. “What questions do you have for your family members?”

Part of life is learning about where you come from, and gaining the wisdom of life mistakes and hardships through the family. There are plenty of questions they might feel compelled to ask older people.

Asking children what they want to know in particular can open the door to teaching lessons through family stories

22. “What does family mean to you?”

The word "family" has a different meaning to us all. Children can tell you what makes someone their family member, and who they accept and why. 

23. “What would you do if you could be the boss of your parents for one day?”

This might be a silly question but you may find out a bit about what they wish to do for fun with parents or what punishments they feel are effective.

24. “What do you see other families doing that you’d like to do?” 

Asking these questions helps the child feel more in control and like they have a say and the ability to improve their lives. 

Questions to Ask Kids About Their Social Life or Hobbies

Children learn, experiment, and grow into who they are each day. Their social lives and hobbies say a lot about the things that make them the happiest. By learning about their favorite things to do and who they enjoy being with, you are able to nourish these parts of life and open doors. 

25. “What are you looking forward to in the next month? Next year?”

Looking to the future is a positive way to see the good, remind your child that any current negative situation is temporary, and get into their head to hear what they want to see happen for them in the future. 

26. “How do you choose your friends?”

It can be scary allowing the child in your life to live in this world and make his or her own decisions. Get some insight into what your child looks for in a friend and offer suggestions to get better strategies if needed. 

27. “What made you smile today?”

The answer to this simple question will probably make you smile, too. 

28. “If you could spend an entire day doing one thing, what would it be?” 

Hobbies are important to have outside of the daily school and chore schedules. It allows for creativity, confidence building, and individuality — things you want to foster from a young age. 

29. “What does your future look like?”

What are their hopes and dreams, without asking that specifically? What do they see for themselves and how do they speak about themselves in this context? Asking the right questions can help you get a handle on children's mental health and any worries they may be dealing with. 

Asking Questions Opens Doors 

Get out of the rut of the same boring questions and ask questions that matter! Through fun and open-ended questions, you are more likely to build a trusting, positive relationship with your favorite child. Answer the questions you ask to further discuss and discover things you have in common or even disagree about. 

Looking for more? Read our list of questions to ask family members

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