Does music comfort you when you are sad? If you recently suffered a miscarriage, you may feel slightly consoled from listening to one of the following songs. We’ve tried to find songs from several different genres since everyone has particular music tastes.
Jump ahead to these sections:
- Country Songs About Having a Miscarriage
- Rap or Hip-Hop Songs About Dealing with a Miscarriage
- Pop Songs About Experiencing a Miscarriage
- Rock or Alternative Songs About Miscarriage
While listening to music may help you in your grief, you may also consider reading books about loss. Of course, you may want to reach out to a counselor or therapist to talk through some of the emotions you are experiencing after the miscarriage.
Country Songs About Having a Miscarriage
Some singers have been open about their experiences losing a child. In fact, some use their art to process the complicated emotions that often come with grief. Even if you aren’t musical, you may feel comforted by putting some of your thoughts into words. Consider writing the lyrics to a song or poem in a notebook to describe how you’re feeling after the loss of a child.
As many country music songs are sad songs, the genre may be the perfect choice for this situation. If you prefer country music over pop, here are some pieces to consider.
1. “Bottle By My Bed” by Sunny Sweeney
The speaker in this song is frustrated waiting for a baby to come. She sees her friends experience motherhood, and she wonders when her turn will come.
Even though the subject matter and song is not lighthearted, we appreciate one of the lines: “Spend a lot of afternoons daydreaming ’bout you. Right now our mortgage is the only thing that’s due.”
2. “Who You’d Be Today” by Kenny Chesney
It’s not clear how old the child was when he died in this song by Kenny Chesney, but this song would undoubtedly resonate with someone who experienced a miscarriage. One line reads, “It ain’t fair you died too young, like a story that had just begun.”
3. “Your Hands” by J.J. Heller
This song is more folk than country, but it describes a person feeling God’s comforting hands when his heart is breaking. There are quite a few songs written by Christian artists that speak about miscarriages.
4. “See You Again” by Carrie Underwood
It is not clear that this song is specifically about a miscarriage, but it is about someone mourning for a person who died. In this song, the speaker feels comforted knowing that their loved one is a part of the stars in the sky.
Rap or Hip-Hop Songs About Dealing with a Miscarriage
We didn’t find many rap or hip-hop songs dealing with miscarriage. Here are a couple of choices to consider. You may also find a song that speaks to you in our list of songs about death.
Some of the songs on our list are explicitly about losing a child, while others are about loss in general. Regardless, we hope that they give you some comfort for the grief you are experiencing from the loss of the child.
5. “Heaven” by Beyonce
Fans speculate that “Heaven” is about a miscarriage, but there is no specific reference to children in the song. Regardless, the song is about grief and loss, and the chorus repeats the line, “heaven couldn’t wait for you.”
6. “Giving You Back” by Robyn
Many people receive comfort from the idea that they are giving their baby back to the Creator when the infant dies.
This song, “Giving You Back” is about a mother who loses a child. The speaker says, “I’m giving you back, to the stars. You made me see a lot clearer, heaven is not that far.”
7. “You Wouldn’t Cry” by Mandisa
This song is categorized as gospel instead of rap or hip hop, and it is written from an interesting perspective. The deceased speaks to the survivor in the lyrics of this song. One line says, “I’m already home. You’ve got to lay it down ’cause Jesus holds me now, and I am not alone.”
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Pop Songs About Experiencing a Miscarriage
No matter the genre, you’ll find songwriters who write about the gut-wrenching experience of losing a baby. Here are some songs from the world of pop.
8. “Nothing is Wasted” by Jason Gray
This song is written from a Christian perspective. Even though the lyrics aren’t implicitly about miscarriage, the song talks about how God uses pain. For example, consider the following stanza: “It’s from the deepest wounds that beauty finds a place to bloom. And you will see before the end / that every broken piece is gathered in the heart of Jesus / and what’s lost will be found again.”
9. “I Will Carry You” by Selah
This song is subtitled “Audrey’s Song,” It is about a mother reflecting on her unborn daughter’s life. In the song, the speaker says, “People say that I am brave but I’m not. / Truth is I’m barely hanging on.” This is probably a prevalent sentiment for women who experience a miscarriage.
10. “I Would Die for That” by Kellie Coffey
Kellie Coffey sings “I Would Die for That” to honor the women who struggle with fertility. The most heartbreaking line of this sweet song is “What I want most / before my time is gone, / is to hear the words / ‘I love you, Mom.’ ”
11. “Small Bump” by Ed Sheeran
In “Small Bump,” Ed Sheeran sings about a woman losing a baby during the fourth month of her pregnancy. The last line of the song is the most poignant, “‘Cause you were just a small bump unborn for four months then torn from life / maybe you were needed up there but we’re still unaware as why.”
12 “Glory Baby” by Watermark
This sad song about a miscarriage is performed by a contemporary Christian duo called Watermark. The lyrics read, “Heaven will hold you before we do. / Heaven will keep you safe / until we’re home with you.”
Rock or Alternative Songs About Miscarriage
Losing a child due to a miscarriage may be incredibly frustrating because of how others react to your situation. While you feel the grief that comes with losing a loved one, others may view it as an ambiguous loss. The more people talk about the experience of losing a child through miscarriage, the more others will understand.
13. “Gone Too Soon” by Daughtry
A father mourns the loss of an unborn child in “Gone Too Soon” by Daughtry. The speaker in the song wonders what his child would have achieved had he or she lived. We love the line, “Who would you be? What would you look like when you looked at me for the very first time?”
14. “Spark” by Tori Amos
Tori Amos’ song “Spark” is about the singer/songwriter’s experience with miscarriage. The lines “she’s convinced she could hold back a glacier . . . but she couldn’t keep baby alive” show her anguish regarding the situation.
15. “Little Invitro” by Gary Numan
People who face loss are often told that “time will heal all wounds.” The speaker in the song “Little Invitro” wonders how this could be. He says, “How in the world can they say that time will heal us?” after experiencing the loss of a child.
16. “Beam Me Up” by Pink
The speaker in this song wishes to be with her lost loved one for one minute. She says she’s tired of being a fighter, and she wants just one minute to look at her loved one’s face.
17. “Ten” by Yellowcard
You feel a couple’s agony of losing a child when listening to the song “Ten” by Yellowcard. The lyrics describe a conversation: “ ‘Honey, I’ve got real bad news’ / and then there were just tears. / And we would never be the same again.”
Other Ways to Remember Your Unborn Child
While listening to these songs may comfort you, there are other ways to remember the child you lost. Consider planting a tree or bush in your backyard in memory of the life not lived. You may add a plaque or a garden stone at the base with the name of the child you lost.
You may also consider supporting a local charity in memory of the child. You can serve the charity on the child’s due date or contribute each year to honor the child you lost.
Finally, you can talk about your experience with others. Sometimes people keep these matters private. While this is understandable, it also makes others feel that they are alone in their grief.