You probably haven’t spent a lot of time thinking about the best way to write a sympathy note that accompanies funeral flowers or sympathy plants — but when that time comes, you want to be ready for it.
Different audiences might require you to convey your sincerest sympathies in different ways. For example, a note to a close friend will look (and sound!) completely different than a note you’d send to your boss or co-worker's family.
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- Message Ideas for Friends
- Message Ideas for Family
- Message Ideas for Your Boss, Coworkers, or Clients
Choosing those words can be easier said than done, so here are some heartfelt message ideas to get the inspiration you need.
But if the family is hosting a virtual funeral using a service like GatheringUs, keep in mind that they may not want flowers or physical gifts at all. They might provide an "in lieu of flowers" request on the funeral invitation, which will detail what you should do instead.
If that's the case, you can still write a heartfelt and thoughtful sympathy message. Send it in a card, or write it in the online guestbook if available.
Sending funeral flowers is one way you can show your sympathy and support if a close friend has lost a loved one. Likewise, if your friend has passed away, you may want to support his or her family by sending a bouquet with a note of support attached.
Often, the most appreciated sympathy letters include memories of the departed. Can you think of a unique quality or fond memory? Consider including, "I'll never forget…" in your sympathy card.
Tip: Composing a sympathy flower message for a friend or another loved one might be just one of your responsibilities after the death. If you need help through this process, check out our post-loss checklist.
Here are 15 thoughtful sympathy message ideas for a funeral flower note to your friend:
- I’m so lucky to have had [Name] in my life, and that’s why it’s so hard to say goodbye.
- May you find comfort and peace in those who remember and celebrate [Name].
- Many friends come into our lives — but only a few leave extraordinary marks on our hearts like [Name]. Wishing you comfort and support.
- [Name] brought happiness, laughter, and joy to everyone who knew him/her. [He/she] is missed.
- I am deeply sorry for your loss. As you grieve, please know that I am remembering [Name].
- Words cannot express my sadness at [Name]’s loss. Please know that I'm here for you.
- I cannot express how much [Name] has meant to me over the years. [He/She] brought incredible joy to my life. My sincerest condolences to your wonderful family.
- I'm always here for you if you need to talk to me. Sending my love and heartfelt condolences.
- I can't imagine the sadness you must feel from the loss of [Name]. May you find comfort in the love of those around you.
- Wishing you peace, comfort, and courage as you face the days ahead.
- The memories of [Name] will last on in my heart and in my memories.
- [Name] will never be forgotten. [He/She] captured a place in all of our hearts.
- We were so lucky to have had [Name] in our lives.
- I'm deeply sorry for your loss. Let me know if I can do anything for you and your family.
- May these flowers express what words never could. Sending you hugs and my deepest sympathies.
A family member's passing can be difficult to navigate if you're not closely related or if you don't live near immediate family members.
Just like sympathy cards for friends and friends' families, a personalized note will almost always be appreciated. Similarly, share a special memory with the family of the person who has passed.
Here are 15 sympathy flower messages that might work if you want to go with a more trimmed-down note:
- I will always treasure the memories of the time I spent with [Name].
- [Name] made the world a brighter place and will be dearly missed by all.
- In loving memory of [Name], who was loved by all.
- I am deeply sorry about the loss of [Name]. I want you to know that I’m here for you if you need anything.
- I am thinking of you during this sad time.
- I will miss [Name] and celebrate [his/her] memory. May [he/she] rest peacefully.
- I'm deeply sorry to hear about the passing of [Name]. Words fall short of expressing my sadness.
- I offer my sincere love and will continue to remember to hold fond memories of [Name] close to my heart.
- Sending you my sincerest condolences. May the loving thoughts of family embrace you in this time of sorrow.
- Keeping your family in thoughts and prayers.
- [Name] is greatly missed and will always be remembered.
- My heart is heavy at [Name]’s loss. I continue to think of the memories and joy [he/she] shared with us.
- [Name] brought so many gifts into our lives. I will never forget [him/her]. May you find comfort and peace in the love of those around you.
- Words seem inadequate to express the sadness I feel during this time.
- [Name]'s loss is felt by all of us, but [his/her] memory lives on.
Sending funeral flowers to the family of your boss, coworker, or client can be tricky. You want to express sympathy without being too familiar — but don't want to send funeral flower notes that sound cold or obligatory.
Think back on your working relationship with that person and incorporate those memories into your letter. Here are some messages to consider if you're sending funeral flowers after the loss of your boss, coworker, or client.
- My warmest condolences.
- [Name] lives on in my memories. I am so sorry for your loss.
- [Name]’s loss is felt by many. May the memory of [his/her] beautiful personality be celebrated in this challenging time.
- It was a joy to work with [Name], and my thoughts are with you and your family. I will never forget the joy [he/she] brought to the office each day.
- The short time I had the joy of spending with [Name] was not nearly enough. My heart goes out to your family during this difficult time.
- My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
- Please accept my deepest condolences and sympathy for your loss.
- May these flowers express the sympathy and sadness I feel for your family during this difficult time.
- With deepest sympathy.
- May this small gift help express my heartfelt condolences for your loss.
- Please know that I am thinking of you and your family and sending my most heartfelt sympathies.
- My heart is heavy with sympathy.
- [Name] will never be forgotten.
- [Name]’s impact on all of our lives will last forever. My deepest condolences for your loss.
- [Name]’s memory will live on in the people [she/he] worked with every day.
Sending funeral flowers with a personalized note is a thoughtful way to show you care. You may be worried about saying the wrong thing in your message, but keep in mind that any words of support will go a long way.
Bear in mind the family's religious beliefs and cultural heritage. If you're part of a religious community together, like a church, temple, or mosque, it may be appropriate to incorporate those beliefs into your note. Otherwise, it's best to leave religion out of it. Choose words that are meaningful to you — but also sync with the recipients' values.
You may also want to check funeral flower etiquette and the recipients' preferences — it may be more appropriate to bring something else, like this meat and cheese gift basket, or make a donation if the family has asked for something in lieu of flowers.
Most importantly, keep your condolences sincere and try not to overthink your note. Stay true to how you feel and your condolences will be spot on.